ihugmoons Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 hello all, I am new to this forum and need some different insights/advice on a situation I am in. I am currently in a relationship with someone, going on 5 months. Its a very long story but to keep things short: He is 33. I am 24. I have a college degree and a 9 to 5 job. He doesn't. I looked past these things because I really liked him. I recently moved into my own apartment and since then my boyf has been "living" with me. When i met him, he was legally married (AND STILL IS) and living in a homeless shelter because his "wife" left him for another man in April 2012. We have a lot of shared interests and values and get along well so i looked past all of this. As we got to spend a lot of time together, I thought he would be getting employment. It is hard in this economy, so I tried to help him by giving him 200 plus dollars to help him get his security license. He got it. He however has not extensively looked for any type of work concerning that license and makes excuses about how he has no experience and they are looking for money and etc.. So basically he is living on me, but only providing food stamps. The same food he also eats. lol.. He is YET to file for divorce even tho him and his ex of "16 years" have no assets and he can fill out a waiver. His excuse for not filing; "I am more concerned about getting employment" and how "It's just a piece of paper and doesn't matter"... its really staring to sound like a load of....lol So basically during these 5 months. He is still unemployed, still legally married, and cannot even take care of himself. He talks about wanting to be a musician and making it in the music business. He also talks about becoming an elementary school teacher and how he will take "online classes". I am starting to feel like i am being dooped with "I love you, I see you as my wife, I am serious about you talk" and not seeing the TRUTH. Sad thing is, I also have feelings. I really like him and have come to love him as a person. Yet it is getting to a point where i am going to give him an ultimatum, or should I just kick him out knowing he has no where to go and no way to live? Thoughts?
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