MushyPeas Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 So this is more just so I can get some feelings off my chest, I've been doing good and it's just over a month since the break up with my 4 year ex. Feeling a little angry right now though, just noticed that he's re added or accepted a friend request from a woman who caused a lot of our problems the last year of our relationship, he previously had deleted her because I was not okay with the situation between them. I don't want to bore you all with the details but basically she's a needy, creep of a woman who has nothing better to do than hang around and sponge any attention she can off boys 10 years younger than her. I know this is not about me, nor is it any of my business, and I am glad I've noticed that they're "friends" again (I know facebook friends doesn't really mean much haha) because this has made me feel extremely sorry for him, he's gone back to being the same desperate creep he turned into for a brief period last year so rather than missing him, right now I feel like I had a close break! I just don't understand how he can appear so fine and let someone back into his life, someone who caused majority of the problems we had when we were together and so so much guilt on his part. He said he couldn't be with me because he couldn't handle the guilt he felt of the things he'd put me through and I was a reminder of that, yet letting someone who was the ROOT of this into your home and your life again? how the hell does that work..It's just such a big slap in the face and a big screw you to me and everything we ever had. I know this sounds all dramatic and yeah I know I shouldn't even have noticed that they're friends again, I shouldn't even still care for someone who put me through some pretty rough times, but I just needed to write this down, I'm amazed how okay he is (I know on the outside I seem it too, but really I'm still so gutted), I guess I just feel so rejected right now and I just wish I could be as okay as he seems to be, maybe this is easier for him because he made the decision to end it, I just feel absolutely powerless. How thoughtless can some people be...
ForeverHopeful1 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 How was SHE the root of the issue? If he wasn't a douche bag, he wouldn't have made her an issue and would have ignored her - as he should have done. HE is the root of that. People call the OW the home wrecker? How about the man who wrecked his own damn home? Sounds like he fed you a load of crap! Moving on is the very best thing you can do. Delete his stupid ass so you don't have to see who he is friends with. Just a thought. Good riddance!!!! I don't think its easy not to care. You were together for years. It seems this is all playing out the way he wanted though. He dumped you. He gave you a BS story about how he couldn't be with you because he betrayed you. Now he's with her. Or speaking to her. First off, if he cared about how he betrayed you, breaking up with you was stupid. He should have tried to show you a different person!!!!!!! Instead, he is just showing you what a scum bag he always was. 1
Author MushyPeas Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Oh for sure I completely agree with you, I guess I was just angry with her because she's a fair bit older with children and commitments of her own and she should have known better, but no I completely see that it's his own fault and I shouldn't blame anyone but him. All this crap about how she repulsed him yada yada, it's just a difficult pill to swallow that things I've been worrying so much over for the last year while we were together, have now happened as soon as I'm out of the picture (even though this is just assumption, and I'm not going to pry any further or look into this because I don't have the time or energy to be concerned about what he's doing) Thank you for your response! my original post was really just a rant but thanks for taking the time to reply !
Author MushyPeas Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Haha, I'm totally done, I had a little crap attack earlier but I really am glad I saw what I did, it could mean absolutely nothing (and in fact it's none of my business so who cares, I shouldn't have really seen it at all) but I think it's what I needed, I'm just gonna choose to look at it as the final nail in the coffin and leave him to it because I have no control over whatever will happen anyway so there's zeeeeero point in worrying. Rofl facebook is a douche bag, I never understood the whole airing your dirty laundry for everyone to see, it's so cringey. I deleted mine for a week or so and when i reactivated it a few people were like "omg i missed you!" "awmgggg where did you go"...guys, you have my number and know where I live? Plus facebook keeps ruining tv series for me, I didn't ask for spoilers! Rant also over ;]
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