tuxedo cat Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 The guy I just started dating has been abroad on a work trip for three weeks and won't be back for another week. His trip was originally supposed to be three weeks but has been extended a few days because of poor weather. We've only been on three dates but we seem to both really like each other and had crushes on each other previous to going out. We've kept in contact while he's been gone, mostly initiated by him, but he has poor cell phone reception and he's working 12 hour shifts so the contact has been a bit infrequent. He seems interested -- he keeps mentioning things he wants to do with me when he gets back, he constantly asks me questions about myself and takes an interest in learning about things I like, he says he wishes he was spending time with me rather than working, he talks about cuddling with me in bed, he initiates most of the contact. A few nights ago he messaged me on facebook chat. We had a pleasant, brief conversation. He told me that he was exhausted from work, he asked me what I'd been up to. I mentioned that the weather here was really nice and he replied, "I can't wait to be back!!" I responded, "it will be nice when you come back. im looking forward to being with you". He wrote, "me too!" A moment before I sent this comment he wrote that he just got a text from his boss that he had to go back to work for another 12 hour shift and he wanted to get a little sleep before the night's run. I didn't read his message until after I hit send. I wished him well and we said goodbye. Since then I've been obsessing that I somehow blew it by coming on too strong with that comment. That was a few days ago and I haven't heard from him since but that in itself is not unusual -- he's only been calling/messaging me every few days. I think I'm just scared that I'll never hear from him again.
iKING Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 No you didn't blow it, relax tc. Probably just work related. If it were me, I'd take it as added anticipation to come home. Seeing you might have been a better choice as you guys aren't officially together yet. 1
Treasa Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I don't think you said anything so outrageous that you'd scare him off. Besides, if he's that new, you shouldn't be too attached to him anyway. And if he does flake off, well... Why would you want to be with someone like that?
carhill Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Tempest in a teapot is my opinion. IMO, your fears are unwarranted with regards to this specific interaction. Suggestion: Next time he's off work and has phone reception and you and he start 'chatting', call him. I'm sure he'd be happy to hear your voice.
BitterSweet2k Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 compared to your postings in the "Sexual & Reproductive Health and Practices" forum you seem to be highly insecure...wow OF COURSE one single text comment like that does not change interest and affection all of a sudden...
ForeverHopeful1 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 The guy I just started dating has been abroad on a work trip for three weeks and won't be back for another week. His trip was originally supposed to be three weeks but has been extended a few days because of poor weather. We've only been on three dates but we seem to both really like each other and had crushes on each other previous to going out. We've kept in contact while he's been gone, mostly initiated by him, but he has poor cell phone reception and he's working 12 hour shifts so the contact has been a bit infrequent. He seems interested -- he keeps mentioning things he wants to do with me when he gets back, he constantly asks me questions about myself and takes an interest in learning about things I like, he says he wishes he was spending time with me rather than working, he talks about cuddling with me in bed, he initiates most of the contact. A few nights ago he messaged me on facebook chat. We had a pleasant, brief conversation. He told me that he was exhausted from work, he asked me what I'd been up to. I mentioned that the weather here was really nice and he replied, "I can't wait to be back!!" I responded, "it will be nice when you come back. im looking forward to being with you". He wrote, "me too!" A moment before I sent this comment he wrote that he just got a text from his boss that he had to go back to work for another 12 hour shift and he wanted to get a little sleep before the night's run. I didn't read his message until after I hit send. I wished him well and we said goodbye. Since then I've been obsessing that I somehow blew it by coming on too strong with that comment. That was a few days ago and I haven't heard from him since but that in itself is not unusual -- he's only been calling/messaging me every few days. I think I'm just scared that I'll never hear from him again. Awww Hun. I think everything is going well!!! I don't think you said anything wrong or scared him off! He did say, "me too!!!" I know we start doubting ourselves when we put feelings out there and I think you may just be experiencing some worry here due to opening up a bit more. Xoxox I don't think you have scared him off.
Imajerk17 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 "it will be nice when you come back, I'm looking forward to being with you" Seems perfectly fine and "with the flow" of how things are going with this guy to me.... Newsflash: We guys like girls who like us back and who express it. Don't tell anyone though our little secret! 2
iKING Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 compared to your postings in the "Sexual & Reproductive Health and Practices" forum you seem to be highly insecure...wow OF COURSE one single text comment like that does not change interest and affection all of a sudden... She just really likes this guy and has a perfect venue to ask questions in. I agree with the second part though.
Star Gazer Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 He said, "Me too!" So, you're good. Case closed. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 No. What you said was perfect given the context. Don't overthink things. Easier said than done when you really want things to work out, but just relax and enjoy being with someone new.
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