Was he PERVING on me???

[veganpilot]

Today when I was walking past him, my friend saw him staring at me from the head to toe. She described the stare as 'really wanting to ask me out'. Was he perving on me? He looked at everything, including from the face to the legs. Whenever I walk past everyday, he is always standing in the same spot and ignores his friends and turns to stare at me. Is he interested? Also, we have after school exam preperation classes. Our professor was telling those who are attending to raise their hands. My crush immediately looked at me adter raising his hand. If I did not raise my hand, he stares at me sadly and puts it down, and up again, confused. Now the only thing that prevents me from confessing/asking him out is when I sit near him(not next to him, but about 2 seats aside), he always moves away. Why is this? Please help me, I am getting really depressed because of this. Also, he knows I like him already. He never tries to talk to me too. It has veen 3 years. After graduation, I'll never see him again..

 

School is also his number ONE priority, and some people think that dating could affect your grades. He is the top student and very strict when it comes to studying. Our professor also told us not to fall in love at our final year ^-^

 

Should I confess or talk to him first? I catch him staring in class and looking away when caught. Strangely enough, he never talks/flirts with girls. He also NEVER looks at them. Trust me, I am in all his classes. My friends who sit across from me confirms that too.

[Video]

Its my belief that its the mans job to make the move. Woman are the ones who are supposed to play games not guys. You arent even dating him and hes already playing head games with you...i would stay away. Seems like he hasnt quite figured out how things work yet.

 

Only when he gets the balls to confront you will he be deserving.

Edited March 26, 2013 by Video

[TaraMaiden]

"Perving on me"....?

What kind of senseless English is that?

 

Why can't people speak properly?

 

If you mean,

 

"Do you think he was getting some kind of creepy satisfaction from staring at me?"

 

Then why don't you ask that?

 

But if you happen to like him, and would love him to ask you out - 'perving' is hardly the correct term.

 

Good grief, I though you were in Education..... :mad:

[TaraMaiden]

I know. It just grates on my nerves.

 

Why do people feel it's acceptable?

 

It's standards disappearing down the goddamn plughole, that's what it is.

 

Sorry.

I'll go.

[TaraMaiden]

That doesn't make it an improvement, good or right.

[StarsOnFire]

I think if he wanted to ask you out he would. Sounds like he's had 3 years to do it, so if he hasn't yet, I wouldn't hold your breath.

[TaraMaiden]

Of course not. Dictionaries are mere records of Vocabulary and their meanings.

 

The nature of language is determined by the way people are taught to use it, and how lazy or otherwise they are.

 

New posters who submit posts with no punctuation, poor grammar and abbreviations - such as text-speak - are constantly being advised by long-term members that not only is it unnecessary, it is also unacceptable.

 

If you're going to communicate with a vast range of different people on a forum - many of whom do NOT have English as a mother tongue - then it's pretty necessary to use language most will understand.

 

The original question gives rise to the belief that she found the attention of this man undesirable and disconcerting.

Then we find that in fact, the opposite is true.

 

Phrasing a question using that language, makes the OP sound, quite frankly, like trailer-trash. Or as we might say in the UK, "From Essex".

[TaraMaiden]

That's quite hypocritical when we use our own jargon that we have to direct people to keys to translate.

 

Acronyms aren't 'jargon'. They're 'acronyms'.

 

The OP wasn't using jargon. The OP was using inappropriate terminology, and poor grammar.

 

You are jumping the gun here. It has nothing to do with quality of character. It's a habit of young people to use words with a negative connotation to describe someone who at the same time they are showing interest in. How many times have I heard girls talk about creepers with desire in their eyes...

 

I don't know.... how many times....? is this a quiz? Look, we're not all dippy teens with a whole range of opposites. How on earth is anyone above the age of 25 supposed to know that?

[GorillaTheater]

I'm perving on Tara. I dig that broad.

 

Veganpilot, this dude sounds like quite a catch. Go for it.

[TaraMaiden]

GT, I only have to look at you, and I melt......

 

Perv away.......

[veganpilot]

First of all, I am not here to be lectured. Secondly, I was born in Korea and came to Australiq 4 years ago, and still struggling with English. Thirdly, what I hqve written was a jargon, or in slang form to attract the attention of viewers, and if stated or redefined in your way, it might not attract so many attention. The span of the sentence is too long and may not entice attention. Something simple and short may attract the reader's attention. Have I possessed the continual use of slangs and jargons in the rest of my questions or posts? If it is continual and that I am not a foreigner, I can accept your criticism. However, if slangs, jargon and horrible grammar is not continual, it does not depict the problem. And if I do happen to convey terrible use of these conventions, it does not necessarily degrade the reading and spelling and also aural skills I possess. That is why there are these different components within an English test. Bad gtammar does not convey bad reading skills and so forth. It is inaccurate to judge one's English skills by judging the grammar, as the individual may have great arguments, points and thesis in the essay, and these are essentially the most important components.

 

So if you came here to brag and lecture me with my English, please remind yourself, and congratulate yourself, that you possess greater and more superior literacy than a 16 year old Korean girl with limited knowledge of English. I must congratulate you. Also, I may not have any luck with English or humanities, but my mathematics and sciences are considerably better.

[veganpilot]

Oh, Taramaiden, it happens so that you are English? No wonder you excel in that department. While you may exceed my literacy skills easily, you may not with Korean.

[veganpilot]

Thanks for your support, guys. So is he interested in me? If so, why did he move away when I sat near him? I surely wasn't sitting next to him. That thought has been haunting me for a long time. Forgive me for my typos

[veganpilot]

Back to the original issue.

 

If you don't put all your chips in then you can't win. If you don't ask this guy out your obsession over him will keep eating at you. He might say no. That's okay. There will always be other guys who will want to date you even if you don't think so.

 

Otherwise enjoy riding the same merry-go-round to no where getting dizzier with every revolution.

 

Exactly No pain, no gain. I want to talk to him, but his clingy friends refuse to detach from him :/

[veganpilot]

Though why would guys stare and check out girls they aren't interested in? I know for a fact he never looks at other girls in that way. He doesn't even look, talk and flirt with girls.

[TaraMaiden]

First of all, I am not here to be lectured. Secondly, I was born in Korea and came to Australiq 4 years ago, and still struggling with English. Thirdly, what I hqve written was a jargon, or in slang form to attract the attention of viewers, and if stated or redefined in your way, it might not attract so many attention. The span of the sentence is too long and may not entice attention. Something simple and short may attract the reader's attention. Have I possessed the continual use of slangs and jargons in the rest of my questions or posts? If it is continual and that I am not a foreigner, I can accept your criticism. However, if slangs, jargon and horrible grammar is not continual, it does not depict the problem. And if I do happen to convey terrible use of these conventions, it does not necessarily degrade the reading and spelling and also aural skills I possess. That is why there are these different components within an English test. Bad gtammar does not convey bad reading skills and so forth. It is inaccurate to judge one's English skills by judging the grammar, as the individual may have great arguments, points and thesis in the essay, and these are essentially the most important components.

 

So if you came here to brag and lecture me with my English, please remind yourself, and congratulate yourself, that you possess greater and more superior literacy than a 16 year old Korean girl with limited knowledge of English. I must congratulate you. Also, I may not have any luck with English or humanities, but my mathematics and sciences are considerably better.

 

Excellent, excellent post.

 

It is abundantly clear that you are not 'struggling with English' at all. In fact, your composition would put many of your peers to utter shame.

 

Now, why can't you write like that - ALL the time!?!

 

I applaud you - without a single gram of irony or sarcasm.

 

It proves me wrong, and I could not be more delighted that it does.

 

[veganpilot]

Eye contact is a sign of interest typically but the chair moving thing might have been nothing.

 

What do you mean by nothing? By contrasting the looks he gives me and the chair-moving seems insignificant?

[veganpilot]

Or that he is generally uninterested?

[todreaminblue]

Of course not. Dictionaries are mere records of Vocabulary and their meanings.

 

The nature of language is determined by the way people are taught to use it, and how lazy or otherwise they are.

 

New posters who submit posts with no punctuation, poor grammar and abbreviations - such as text-speak - are constantly being advised by long-term members that not only is it unnecessary, it is also unacceptable.

 

If you're going to communicate with a vast range of different people on a forum - many of whom do NOT have English as a mother tongue - then it's pretty necessary to use language most will understand.

 

The original question gives rise to the belief that she found the attention of this man undesirable and disconcerting.

Then we find that in fact, the opposite is true.

 

Phrasing a question using that language, makes the OP sound, quite frankly, like trailer-trash. Or as we might say in the UK, "From Essex".

 

 

 

do i annoy you taramaiden.......deb

[todreaminblue]

Today when I was walking past him, my friend saw him staring at me from the head to toe. She described the stare as 'really wanting to ask me out'. Was he perving on me? He looked at everything, including from the face to the legs. Whenever I walk past everyday, he is always standing in the same spot and ignores his friends and turns to stare at me. Is he interested? Also, we have after school exam preperation classes. Our professor was telling those who are attending to raise their hands. My crush immediately looked at me adter raising his hand. If I did not raise my hand, he stares at me sadly and puts it down, and up again, confused. Now the only thing that prevents me from confessing/asking him out is when I sit near him(not next to him, but about 2 seats aside), he always moves away. Why is this? Please help me, I am getting really depressed because of this. Also, he knows I like him already. He never tries to talk to me too. It has veen 3 years. After graduation, I'll never see him again..

 

School is also his number ONE priority, and some people think that dating could affect your grades. He is the top student and very strict when it comes to studying. Our professor also told us not to fall in love at our final year ^-^

 

Should I confess or talk to him first? I catch him staring in class and looking away when caught. Strangely enough, he never talks/flirts with girls. He also NEVER looks at them. Trust me, I am in all his classes. My friends who sit across from me confirms that too.

 

 

 

Kamikaze and ask him out or wait for him to ask you, I believe a guy should be able to ask a woman out .....as a man if he is keen he will, if he doesn't there si a reason why that none of us on here could say, maybe its shyness, maybe he is invested in study and wants no distractions,or it could be simply zero attraction.....in my experience guys who don't ask, aren't attracted when i deviate from that line of thought.....i get myself in trouble.......i suggest you ask him if you are really keen ........tell him.Maybe he follows his professors advice as he wants to succeed in his studies........ask him....deb

[Archgirl]

Isn't this basically the same thread as your last?

 

I already gave you advice of how to ask him out casually.

 

At least you'll know one way or the other and rejection is a bajillion times easier to get over than regret at inaction.

[charlietheginger]

My 7 th grade teacher used to say ain't is not a word.

20 yrs later ain't is a word who woulda guessed ...

Makes me want to leave a note on her car window...

 

"ain't is a word"....

[TaraMaiden]

do i annoy you taramaiden.......deb

 

never in a million years, dear heart.

 

(((<3)))

[veganpilot]

I talked to his BFF. He was really nice, and we had a lot in common. Is that a good sign if his BFFis nice to me? They are practically inseparable.

[veganpilot]

Or should I ask his BFF if he likes me (my crush)?