drew_meister Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 (edited) I'm recently divorced and am quite new to the whole dating thing. I'm comfortable around women and have been in LTRs most of my adult life. Most were friends or introduced through friends and things developed very naturally. Dating strangers is totally different though! I've gone on dates with about 10 different women in the past 6 months but nothing has gone past a few dates. Something always seems to be off. I recently tried OLD and things have gotten even weirder. First date was OK but we didn't have chemistry. We hugged and parted ways. The next day I texted, thanking her for a good time but that we should be friends. No reply. No biggie. Next woman asked me out. We had drinks mid-week and both had a good time. At the end of the night I passed up a definite opportunity to kiss. Still we talked about a real dinner date Friday. We exchanged one text the next day. Then when I texted to confirm for Friday. Never got a reply. I guess she was really turned off when I didn't kiss her. I didn't write anything by text that could have possibly offended her... Now the worst of all. Another woman messaged me and asked ME out. We met for a lunch date that turned into hanging out almost all day. Great connection. The next day I text her and ask her out again. She accepts immediately. I tell her good night and she continues to text me "I hope I didn't offend you when I said..." It came off a little needy to me if anything but I found it cute. Next day she continues to text saying things like "Yay that you want to hang out Friday". But Thursday night she has to postpone because a temp job came through and she really needs the work. We exchange a ton of texts after that so it didn't seem like I was getting the brush off. We text a bit more sporadically the next couple days but we end each exchange with her saying something like "I hope to catch you soon though :)" Now today I check in with her meeting up later this week and she replies "Some things have fallen through, I may have to leave town for a bit". I reply "Really?" She replies "Yeah" WTF? Do I accept this at face value? I'm starting to feel like I have no idea how to read women anymore and I NEVER had this problem in nearly 15 years of committed relationships with several women in my teens through early 30s. What gives??? Edited March 26, 2013 by drew_meister
Michelle83 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Welcome to OLD... I agree. I think you'll get this more and more as you go, not saying it's right for people to do this, but it's a part of the process.
Author drew_meister Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 So I didn't even reply to her and am not sure if I should. Frankly I was blindsided. I mean if she doesn't want to see me just stop replying right? We're friends on FB already and everything she told me about herself til now completely checks out. The timing of this just seems really odd and things got cold so quickly. It's also frustrating because she's the first date in a while that felt "right". If she's really leaving town for a while, I'll know through her FB updates.
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