llll Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Anyone just stop texting/talking to end an LDR? (I feel like a terrible human being.) I was in a non-defined sort-of LDR. I met up with him twice, and didn't really feel it. Still liked talking with him, but I toned the amount down. Then he got really clingy and started talking with this fingernails-on-chalkboard-level whiny voice regularly. He then started all of these ultra conservative/religious anti-women posts on Facebook. So I slowly stopped talking over the course of three weeks. Umm... since we weren't in any real relationship, I thought non-contact would be ok. I didn't block him, and only slowed things down at first. Honestly, I never even told him that I liked him, or acted in a way other than I would towards a friend. Is non-contact always a b- thing to do?
polyglot Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Anyone just stop texting/talking to end an LDR? (I feel like a terrible human being.) I was in a non-defined sort-of LDR. I met up with him twice, and didn't really feel it. Still liked talking with him, but I toned the amount down. Then he got really clingy and started talking with this fingernails-on-chalkboard-level whiny voice regularly. He then started all of these ultra conservative/religious anti-women posts on Facebook. So I slowly stopped talking over the course of three weeks. Umm... since we weren't in any real relationship, I thought non-contact would be ok. I didn't block him, and only slowed things down at first. Honestly, I never even told him that I liked him, or acted in a way other than I would towards a friend. Is non-contact always a b- thing to do? Does being polite help, when you made up your mind? Doesn't matter.
blotter Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I think going NC is fine. I wouldn't want to deal with that **** either.
MarinaX Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I'd think that even though you don't like him, you KNOW that he likes you so why not just be upfront about your lack of feelings and wishing to not continue whatever has been going on. Instead you'd rather have him continuously text you? By now, he probably seems desperate and stupid for not getting it? You're being cold I think. Unless things ended on a bad note I'd say that just cutting him off is callous- would you like to be treated that way? Perhaps you would and that's why you're inclined to act the way you do but most people like a little closure.
MarinaX Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Let me just add, I'd be annoyed as hellllllll with him too after those kinda of conversations but for your own sanity, once and for all, tell him to leave you alone and remain NC afterwards.
Am4Real Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 If you thought it was okay, you wouldn't be posting here. How would you feel if it was done to you? You obviously don;t want to continue with him, why not simply tell him that. If he continues to contact you, then ignore him. Being cognizant is not a bad thing contrary to the support for rude behavior found everywhere else these days.
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