Dan08 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Hey LS, I think I've finally decided I have feelings for another girl at long last though I worry as they don't feel as strong as were for my ex and I worry that if I try to go anywhere with this girl I'll be constantly comparing her to my ex and it'll be doomed from the start. The other issue is that she's my flatmate and if anything were to happen it would have to get going within the next month or so before we split from uni for the summer and that's too quick for me and I don't know how much I would see her over the summer...I also don't think it'd be great if things didn't work out and we had to remain flatmates So it would have to wait till september when we'd no longer be flatmates but that would mean I've been on a dry spell for almost a year which would suck (I don't do ONS.) Do you guys suggest leaving it over the summer and just bring it back round in september?
AwptiK Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Timing is quite tricky in some cases. I just went through a breakup solely for timing issues with school and we had three solid months together. How far away would she be for summer break? A month is hardly the time to ensure that you two will be able to work things out and/or have enough foundation to maintain a relationship. There's a technical understanding that, "you cannot expect or ask someone to wait for you, for longer than the duration of the relationship." Hey, it could happen and I wish the best for you if you do try now. It's up to how strong you may feel right now. If you're scared of comparisons with your ex, maybe wait until September. Remain friends and try to keep in touch over summer and then you'll have a full and FRESH year together if things go well. Take note, both my ex and I understood that we couldn't put things on hold for roughly a year, based on 3 months...even as great as they were. Your potential girl may feel the same about your 3/4 month separation after a month. Wish you the best!
Author Dan08 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Thanks for your detailed response, based on your advice I think ill leave it till September and just stay in touch over the summer and see what happens. Aiming to get ripped over the summer so hopefully that'll sway things in my favour 1
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