TheFriend Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I wanted to share this with everyone. No i don't always follow my own advice but maybe this will help some NOT make the same mistakes i have.... TEA.... any time you have a desire to talk to your ex think of this... T- thoughts E-emotions A- actions Every thing in life we do follows this. Your thoughts provoke your emotions which then cause you to take action. For every TEA you have it then becomes your Exs TEA. Example: Dumpee: T- I miss my ex and need/want her back E- I am so sad and depressed A- you send a letter expressing your feelings Dumper: Gets the letter T- ( wtf, ugh, again?, really?, this is pathetic, aww) E- ( anger, guilt, sadness, spiteful,happy) A-( toss letter,response-->something mean, thanks but no thanks, that was nice, omg finally! i miss you!) Before you contact your ex write this down for both you and how you REALLY think your ex will respond. Every persons situation is different, but thinking about this really helped me in the past May we all heal together. 3
polyglot Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I wanted to share this with everyone. No i don't always follow my own advice but maybe this will help some NOT make the same mistakes i have.... TEA.... any time you have a desire to talk to your ex think of this... T- thoughts E-emotions A- actions Every thing in life we do follows this. Your thoughts provoke your emotions which then cause you to take action. For every TEA you have it then becomes your Exs TEA. Example: Dumpee: T- I miss my ex and need/want her back E- I am so sad and depressed A- you send a letter expressing your feelings Dumper: Gets the letter T- ( wtf, ugh, again?, really?, this is pathetic, aww) E- ( anger, guilt, sadness, spiteful,happy) A-( toss letter,response-->something mean, thanks but no thanks, that was nice, omg finally! i miss you!) Before you contact your ex write this down for both you and how you REALLY think your ex will respond. Every persons situation is different, but thinking about this really helped me in the past May we all heal together. The best shock you can give to a dumper is to dump him/her first. It will give you a lot of satisfaction. Once the red-flags are out at you. Don't wait so give a **** at it.
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