ConfusedJuliet Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I finally managed to cut ties with my head-**** ex. He broke me, wanted to be 'friends', used me for emotional support when it suited him... Well not anymore. I finally had enough of letting him still hurt me. It's hard, and it hurts like hell, but I finally reached my breaking point. Phew.
MarinaX Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Going through a similar situation.. only been a week for me but feels like a year. Not saying this as discouragement but I have a long way to go. I just keep trying to reinforce positive thinking about being single and telling myself that I've never been happy in a relationship so while breaking up is hard RIGHT NOW, I will eventually see how this is good for me in the long run.
garnettandblack84 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 good for you, stay strong and work on your self, be selfish and take care of your self as much as you can. Lean on people for support, right now it seems easy, but hardships will follow and this group, friends, family will be there to hold you when you can't stand. GO get what YOU want!
Am4Real Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 So now what? Are you breaking up but haven't told him yet?
Author ConfusedJuliet Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 We broke up around a month ago, and it's just been hell, and a real emotional rollercoaster since. Now it's done with, I was never the one to call or text him anyway, he'd always initiate, but I would always answer/reply ... But as I said I've realised it's all to benefit and comfort him, and I've accepted he is just no longer a 'good thing' in my life. So he can no longer be in my life. :-)
cavalier99 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 We broke up around a month ago, and it's just been hell, and a real emotional rollercoaster since. Now it's done with, I was never the one to call or text him anyway, he'd always initiate, but I would always answer/reply ... But as I said I've realised it's all to benefit and comfort him, and I've accepted he is just no longer a 'good thing' in my life. So he can no longer be in my life. :-) Good for you. Just stay NC now. There will be a ton of ups and downs but just keep moving forward and dont break it. Good luck. Cav
Author ConfusedJuliet Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 This really is hard, I'm struggling, and it's only been 2 1/2 days ... It's ridiculous how pathetic a person can make you feel.
GudDude2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 & I mean nobody.....TIME!! It takes time. It's hard right now, and you may not even think that you will see light at the end of the tunnel, but it is there. It takes time and moving forward before you see the light. There will be good days and bad days, but the more time that passes the stronger your logic will become, and eventually it will overpower your emotions. There is nothing wrong with caring for someone, but given time and space your perspective will become healthier and you will be able to handle the situation in more control of yourself. Even when he initiates you will be able to put what you need and want from him, if anything, first, and it won't be all about what makes him feel better. He will realize that you aren't the same soft shoulder to cry on, but someone who has boundaries that require giving if there is something he wants to receive. It will be at your discretion, not his. 1
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