Chase Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 OK There's this girl who's a friend of my sisters that I dated for a couple months earlier this year but I broke up with her because of mixed signals. While I was dating her she was really busy with school so most of our relationship was on the phone and I never did sleep with her but I was ok to wait because she was sooo my type. Young, gorgeous, smart, great future career path, and we liked the same things. She seemed really interested because she called me all the time but the weekend she finished her exams and had some free time she wanted to hang out with her friends instead of me so I broke up with her in the hopes she would show that she liked me and try and make some sort of effort to see me but she didn't. Anyways, through the summer I took her out a few times on dates and we'd kiss after but then she'd make herself busy for a couple weeks after that and nothing ever picked up. Meanwhile I also dated a few girls (mostly in the hopes I would stop thinkin of her) but I would just compare them to her and get bored of them. About a month and a half ago I met this other girl and then she started calling me again about 2 weeks ago to hang out. So I told her about the girl I was dating, and then dumped her about a week ago (I was bored of her anyway) and now I'm getting mixed messages again. We've kissed a few times in the past week and a half and she calls me sometimes like last night, allthough I've mostly called her and tonight we had plans to race our Jeeps in this street legal class drag races but it got rained out so I said wanna come over for a movie night? and she said she had some school work and if she had time tonight she was probably gonna stop by her friends house who is having people over (but she didn't invite me). I'm a little confused by these mixed messages but I have a few theories: 1. When we first dated she asked my sis if it was allright and my sis said yes, infact she encouraged it, but when we broke up her and my sis fought and they've never fought before so from then on my sis told her to just not talk to her about it. So maybe she's afraid a relationship with me would hurt her friendship with my sis. I also notice that I get no signs when all 3 of us are hanging out. 2. My sister said she is a confused girl who doesn't know what she wants and has a history of dating guys, getting them interested, then changing her mind. This also reflects her schooling because she takes so many different courses that don't have anything to do with each other. I have dated alot of girls and I've never chased after one so much as her but I think this one is worth fighting for, I just need some strategic advice on how to do it.
Merin Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 Chase, hmmm I just have to point out to you that your sister says this girl is confused and she doesn't know what she wants, that she has a history of dating guys getting them interested and then changing her mind....... Well after reading your post, do you think it's possible that part of the reason you might feel a connection to this girl is because YOU are the same way? LOL I'm not saying that to be mean Chase but for real, you've talked about dating a "few" girls and then getting "bored" and dumping them...... so it seems to me you kind of have a history yourself of dating girls, getting them interested and then changing your mind! Everyone wants what seems to be elusive, and although you really seem to have an interest in this girl, I also question how long it would last if she were to begin to show you the interest the other girls you dated did before history (yours) repeated itself? And If i'm wondering that, don't you think it's possible that SHE wonders that as well? Just like you asked your sister about her, don't think for a minute that she hasn't asked around about you as well, and heard about your "history" and dating patterns. So with that said. IF you really like this girl then I would start with trying to persue HER, JUST HER. Stop "dating around" and show her you're sincere about wanting to be in a relationship with her that is going to last longer than a couple of weeks;)
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