KansasChica Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 So, I have a pretty good girl friend (we've been close for over a year now)- talk every day on the computer. I feel like we've been there for each other through relationships, etc. All of a sudden, she's ignoring me and I have NO idea why. I sent her a message and asked if I had done something to upset her and she doesn't respond. I know she's on FB because I see her liking statuses and whatnot. I'm not sure what else to do, but I seriously hate the passive aggressive stuff. We are both in our late-20's mind you. Any advice?
pink_sugar Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Is she primarily an internet friend? If you don't really hang out in person, I wouldn't dwell on it too much. I've had that happen with friends too before and I usually just shrug it off. Usually they have their own thing going on that doesn't have anything to do with you or being mad at you.
Author KansasChica Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 Well, M and I live somewhat near each other and we were supposed to hang out this weekend. I had to bail, though, unexpectedly because another friend had an extra ticket to a concert and begged me to go. I called M and apologized that I couldn't make it, but it wasn't like I left her high and dry; several other friends still went and hung out. Plus, she cancels ALL the time. I know she has a crazy schedule so I don't think anything of it.
ashleybrown Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 I think you need to meet her once. You can talk to her about this issue, or maybe there is something which is stopping her. Communication is the only source which can solve your problem. Good luck
KatZee Posted March 28, 2013 Posted March 28, 2013 Well, M and I live somewhat near each other and we were supposed to hang out this weekend. I had to bail, though, unexpectedly because another friend had an extra ticket to a concert and begged me to go. I called M and apologized that I couldn't make it, but it wasn't like I left her high and dry; several other friends still went and hung out. Plus, she cancels ALL the time. I know she has a crazy schedule so I don't think anything of it. So you made plans with her and then blew her off pretty much last minute to go to a concert with someone else. Honestly if you were my "friend" your apology would mean nothing to me because that's just a dick move. It's not like someone in your family got sick and you were helping out, or you were actually doing something. You basically just took it upon yourself to go out with another friend. It's completely irrelevant that other people still went, or if SHE cancels. It doesn't make it OK to blow her off just because she has other friends around. And your behavior shouldn't be based on what SHE does. Be the bigger person and keep your plans and keep your word. You say she has a crazy schedule. Is she bailing because of work obligations? There's a difference between bailing for something important, and just being an a.sshole. What you did was wrong.
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