FallenPrincess Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Hi, I am new to this message board, and I was just curious to see how old everyone is. I am 37. Just wondering if I was on the older side of having an affair or not. My lover, however, is not married. I am.
MissBee Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Interesting question. I never thought of being on an "older side" of an affair. I think the older you are it's more likely, in that, the older you get more people you interact with are likely married and "settled", so it increases the chance of you falling for/being involved with a married person.
Yellowteacup Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Hi, I am new to this message board, and I was just curious to see how old everyone is. I am 37. Just wondering if I was on the older side of having an affair or not. My lover, however, is not married. I am. I am 40 years old and I can relate.
SunsetRed Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 45 years old. Old enough to know better but still young enough at heart to make more mistakes to learn from! 1
Catplates Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 66 years stupid and got the shock of my life... You are never too old to be an idiot and learn from it. Cat 6
lilmisscantbewrong Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I was 47 when my affair started. I am 51 now. I was married and so was he(both of us still are). It was a complete disaster - worst mistake of my life. Still fallout and pain from it.
Author FallenPrincess Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 wow-thanks everyone. I thought I was going to be older than all of you!! I thought my affair was some kind of mid life crisis. It still could be; I haven't got a clue!
Scarlett5 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Both 27....on the younger side I see From what I can gather, affairs seem to be of a more serious nature with people who are 'older' - people who have experienced marriage, had the ups and downs and come to the realisation that it's not all it's cracked up to be (in their situations). Or, they have accepted that one person cannot fulfil all of their life-long needs and have found an AP to reignite their fires, so to speak. For the younger, it seems to be more about ego boosting, cake eating and high sex drives. Generally speaking of course - I realise this is not always the case.
AnotherRound Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I am now 37. When I started seeing exMM I was 28 and he was 43. I know that there are theories about mid-life crises and such, but honestly, I think that is simply the average age that people have been married long enough to be unhappy enough to step outside of their marriage. I guess at 28 I would have been at the younger end of the scale, but I had been divorced and had a lot of life experience - so meshing with a 43 year old wasn't difficult at all. I too thought that there were younger people on here and was surprised that I am younger than many of the posters who responded. 2
Poppy fields Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 When I started my first affair it was with a MM and I was 18. My second affair, I was married and my AP was not. I was 29. I am currently 39 and in a marriage that has currently not been affected by infidelity. I was 21 when I became a BW. I think that covers all the ages.
stevie_23 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I’m 34. Will turn 35 in late September (a lovely Libran, heheh) I have been in my long term relationship since I was 22, and got together with my ex-MM in our affair when I was 32.
movingon45 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 45 now, 44 when the A started and he was 43. We were college sweethearts when we were 18 and 17. Oh and gradeschool classmates at 10 years old LOL. The history and the chemistry kill us both, but he seems to have done a better job of moving on without d-day. It's been 6 months since I broke up with him and it kills me that when I sometimes text him, he answers but that's it, no more response to my reply.
18Years2Late Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I'm a fMOW...41 now closing in on 42...xMOM 45...started when I was 39...worst mistake of my entire life and I've made some big ones...
ThatJustHappened Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I was the betrayed girlfriend at 24..am 29 now (30 in a few weeks..aaahhhhhhh!!!!!!!). The @ss, I mean guy, who cheated on me was 39 a the time.
brittanyanderson Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I am 22. The guy I'm seeing is 28 and he's been with his 23 year old girlfriend about 2 years. I'm definitely the youngest here, I think
Esoteric Elf Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 23, but I wish I were around twice the age I am now. Needless to say, I am excited to start getting to some good years.
skylarblue Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I was 23yo when the A started, 30yo when it ended, and turning 32yo this year.
anne1707 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Early 40s when it started. Older 40s now and much, much wiser (and also recognising how little I do know)
Catplates Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I am the oldest of all... Yee Haa Grandmaaaa! 2
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