StephanieLynn1982 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I have been divorced for a couple months now...and started seeing a guy in February and I'm starting to find some happiness....but on Friday I had something that happened to me that sent me overboard. My ex-husband, who asked to separate from me last summer, mailed a letter with no return address to me at my job. What I received was one of the most beautiful and profound testaments of love I have ever read. It detailed how happy I made him, how he would always will consider me his soulmate. It also spoke of our last day together when he moved out. We were both crying and he hugged me and kissed me on the head when he left. It was very sad and touching moment. I immediately burst into tears at my desk and needed my office mates to console me in the bathroom after I explained what had happened. My ex-husband and I had some problems, but I think he's starting to regret his decision to divorce. The thing is, I'm started to feel really bad about the way I treated him in our marriage and how I'm beginning realise how resilient and loyal he was to me...even up until now. He is still single as well. Has anyone dealt with these regrets? I haven't reached out to him yet...he hasn't emailed or tried to call me either. Advice?
Trimmer Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Some more details might help to understand the scenario here. How old are you (guessing 30, but ?) and your ex-husband? How long were you together before separating last summer? And importantly, what was the dynamic in your relationship. You say that he asked to leave, but you also say that you treated him in your marriage. Can you shed some more light on how your marriage was, and what each of you contributed to it, in both positive and negative ways?
FallenPrincess Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Well, the letter to you was his way of putting the ball back in your court. I guess I need to know more about how you are feeling. Do you miss him and regret the decision to move on? Or are you happier now?
Treasa Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 He could just be trying to make amends or get more positivity back into his life. He didn't say he wanted to try again, and there was no return address? I don't think you should read too much into this letter.
Author StephanieLynn1982 Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 Some more details might help to understand the scenario here. How old are you (guessing 30, but ?) and your ex-husband? How long were you together before separating last summer? And importantly, what was the dynamic in your relationship. You say that he asked to leave, but you also say that you treated him in your marriage. Can you shed some more light on how your marriage was, and what each of you contributed to it, in both positive and negative ways? I am 30, he is 32. We were together for two years before the relationship ended in a terrible fight and he told he didn't love me and wanted a divorce, We had some strains in on our relationship. He was very dedicated to his job and some of his side projects and hobbies. I always felt he worked harder at those things then our marriage. I wanted to have kids, but we weren't having sex because I losing emotional attachment to him and I've dealt with depression for nearly 12 years. We put eachother through a lot, but he is not mean person until he is pushed. I'm outspoken, and I would get under his skin a little bit. It just never seemed to work out. We were loyal to one another, never cheated, never physically violent. In the end, it just didn't seem right. He never talked about reconciling in the letter...he told me loved me though and would always love me no matter what.
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