melizza1971 Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 [color=blue][/color] I am having a big problem with my current boyfriend. I have trouble even calling him that. I have been trying to break up with him for a while now and every time I attempt to do this he does something extremely stupid and threatens to kill himself. I have been staying with him only because I don't want him to harm himself because I care for him that much. I don't have love for him romantically anymore. I think because we have been together for 5 years and they have been some very hard years. He has been abusive and he is overly jealous. Sometimes I feel he is mental. I don't know what to do. He stalks me when I leave him. I am so afraid but I can no longer deal with being with him. We have a 3 year old son together and I think that he may use him in some way to force me to stay with him. I know that he is very capable of harming himself or even me or my son in that case. What do I do?????
Leikela Posted September 11, 2004 Posted September 11, 2004 If you feel like you're in danger, report his stalking to the police and get a restraining order against him. Stalking is a crime. You shouldn't have to feel this way. I know it's hard since he's threatening to kill himself and you feel it will be on your conscience, but you have to think about your own self as well. Run for the hills and make sure to report him to the police. If worst comes to worst, there are woman shelters for abused women with children where you can go where he won't be able to find you. There's a way out of this and it might not be easy but it will be better for you and your son in the long run. Best of luck to you!
Selkie Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 Restraining orders can be a double edged sword. If your boyfriend has a very short fuse and is unpredictable, I would suggest you makes plans to have a safe place to go BEFORE thinking of filing a restraining order. Shore up your own personal defenses and take protection of your little son before filing charges that may make him flip out further. Be smart, be well, be safe. Some links: http://www.teamcares.org/City_state.html http://www.safehorizon.org/page.php?page=sheltertour http://www.dvmen.org/dv-13.htm#noprotection
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