Unknown107 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I know this is stupid but I am ruining my relationship with the one thing I have trouble doing which is opening up to someone. I would lie about a personal problem or if she says something to me that's offending or hurts me. I will lie to try and hide it from her I know it is wrong and I should just come clean and be honest. Yet I just can't come towards her and say it so now my relationship has gone down to the point she has lost so much trust in me she doesn't know what I say is true or a lie. She has mentioned how many chances or how many times she would brush it aside hoping it would improve before it reached this point. It took me 2 years to realize what cycle I put myself through due to how I was treated by family in the past. I don't want my relationship with her that has lasted for 3 1/2 years to end. I picked her among so many that came before her I said yes to her when my single thought to being with someone was a waste of time. Yet I'm trying to improve I want to be better, I want to be able to finally open up rather then lying to hide it. It took me this long to realize it to know why my cycle kept going but I want to put a end to that and finally be the man she dreamed of. To improve for my sake and hers is all I want to do now and hopefully get past what has been done.
Lani Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 It sounds to me like you have some pretty big issues surrounding this, and you should speak to a professional. It's great that you've realised the error of your ways, but this thing may just be bigger than you can handle on your own. And it's not something your girlfriend should be burdened with either. Although she is there to help you, it's not her responsibility. You need to put an end to this behavior, not just for the sake of the relationship, but for your own good. Seek professional help on this.
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