phineas Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I have no idea what this girl is about. She writes me yesterday asking about some event that's going on and if I'm going to it. I write back and say yes I am, she replies within 10 minutes to say it would be cool to go. So I ask her if she'd like to go with me and now...nothing. I know what she's about. Making you nuts. It's working. ROTFLMAO! They do the same to me. They disappear for a few days even though I can see they have been on the site then respond. I LOL! And just cut to the chase & ask for their number. I mean honestly, get a new play book.
clia Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I know what she's about. Making you nuts. It's working. ROTFLMAO! They do the same to me. They disappear for a few days even though I can see they have been on the site then respond. I LOL! And just cut to the chase & ask for their number. I mean honestly, get a new play book. And people around here say the 3 day rule is nonsense...
phineas Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 People who are keeping their options open and close behave this way. OLD, people are notorious for this. She may want to keep you VERY INTERESTED so as to keep you as a viable option for her. She likely has others that she is "negotiating" with right now. She may be extending the periods between responses b/c she's waiting for responses from others. Ugh. That's OLD dating for you. LOL! And this is why being the man has an advantage if you have more than one woman you are talking to because you are usually picking the time and place.
outsidethebox Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 There's a little bit more going on here. Half her messages are encouraging you to ask her out it seems. Yes there is game playing. She suggests something, you say would you like to go, and she doesn't respond right away. Yes it's a game, but rationalized by she had to suggest it. There's also all that stuff about considering her options or at least appearing to have options and on and on. Wouldn't be the first time a woman made a guy uncomfortable waiting.
dasein Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Lawyer at a non-profit, yup. You aren't going to get along with this one, sorry. OK seriously though, suggest toughening your skin to this kind of thing before the first call and first meet. Women can get time-clogged with all the attention and dates they get online, and would just proceed as normal, mail her back within 24 hours, ask for phone number, then call and ask out on the first call. Keep mailing others in the meantime.
Object_a Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 The three-day rule is such old-fashioned BS. Either they're not that interested or they're playing games. Either way it's a bad sign IMO.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 And people around here say the 3 day rule is nonsense... Honestly, if I had other options right now I'd be taking them. That's the only reason I'm sticking around. Not because I'm intrigued by the game playing. I have low confidence as it is, I don't need to be humbled. I guess I do have another option, but she lives in another country and won't even chat on a webcam so that's obviously not ideal.
Author fortyninethousand322 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 You aren't going to get along with this one, sorry. Yeah that was my first inclination. But, she doesn't seem to be a drone. She agrees with me on some things. And I figure maybe there's an outside chance she'll be open to the rest. And people call me a pessimist. OK seriously though, suggest toughening your skin to this kind of thing before the first call and first meet. Women can get time-clogged with all the attention and dates they get online, and would just proceed as normal, mail her back within 24 hours, ask for phone number, then call and ask out on the first call. Keep mailing others in the meantime. Ok, sounds like an idea.
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