srivers89 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Broke up with my gf of four years last week and I just can't do anything. I don't have any really good friends to confide in. I don't have a job and currently out of school. I do have a test at the post office tomorrow for potential employment but I have zero motivation to get my ass up tomorrow morning and go. I always find myself saying "it'll be ok" and feeling better for a little bit but then I just think about her and get super depressed again. I feel so lonely I have cried a few times since Friday. I don't want to go back to her because I know the relationship was miserable and she said herself it couldn't be fixed. I've tried going for walks, playing video games, watching movies, making music, etc and none of it helps I always end back in the same emotional place. What can I do?
garnettandblack84 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 is there anything you wanted to do man that you didn't while with her? I was having this same problem recently and I am looking into different clubs or groups around town. Looking into some Brasilian Jiu Jutsu schools, and have just found going to the gym helps a lot. There has to be some connection, friend or family that you may have, don't think because it has been too long that people can't reconnect with ease. Good luck man, get active, go to your job interview and kick ass.
Author srivers89 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Thanks man yeah I always wanted to get into boxing, if I can get any money I'll consider it but I just feel like this wall blocking me from trying anything I wanna get past it but I feel like I can't. I've been trying to talk to different people through facebook, some have been understanding, others have been rude or indifferent. So I try but it's still hard. I'll push myself as hard as I can tomorrow morning to get up and go, nothing will change if I don't.
garnettandblack84 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I'm trying to come to terms with the reality that so many times the wway people act towards us is their own **** going on not ours. People build perceptions of life based on their doings and happenings in life. They then create an opinion on us or anyone based on that perception, if we just try to be the best person we want and can be then what other people think will not matter anymore. THe people important in your life will be there no matter what, without judgment. Stay strong man, boxing gyms are pretty cheap, research some gyms, go for a trial and hit some stuff, then come back and tell me it didn't feel awesome lol.
Author srivers89 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 lol will do man ill keep trying thanks!
polyglot Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Broke up with my gf of four years last week and I just can't do anything. I don't have any really good friends to confide in. I don't have a job and currently out of school. I do have a test at the post office tomorrow for potential employment but I have zero motivation to get my ass up tomorrow morning and go. I always find myself saying "it'll be ok" and feeling better for a little bit but then I just think about her and get super depressed again. I feel so lonely I have cried a few times since Friday. I don't want to go back to her because I know the relationship was miserable and she said herself it couldn't be fixed. I've tried going for walks, playing video games, watching movies, making music, etc and none of it helps I always end back in the same emotional place. What can I do? For every emotion within us, we should vent it out. So is your frustration and disappointment. If you don't release it, you'll get depressed. I can understand. The best I got was from my close friends with whom I shared and got relieved of everything. I was psychologically devastated after my experience recently. I am still recovering from it. Fairly well. Yes I know, we don't feel like doing anything - everything is so demotivating to us, the very purpose of living sometimes. But, the times you are going through is going to give you strength in future. It's hard to accept, but you must face it, there's no other way my friend.
Author srivers89 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 For every emotion within us, we should vent it out. So is your frustration and disappointment. If you don't release it, you'll get depressed. I can understand. The best I got was from my close friends with whom I shared and got relieved of everything. I was psychologically devastated after my experience recently. I am still recovering from it. Fairly well. Yes I know, we don't feel like doing anything - everything is so demotivating to us, the very purpose of living sometimes. But, the times you are going through is going to give you strength in future. It's hard to accept, but you must face it, there's no other way my friend. So are you saying I should just deal with this head on and eventually it'll pass?
Author srivers89 Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 You just have to keep pushing, and continue to live your life. A break up of this sort is nothing more then a learning opportunity. You can reflect on things, mature, and change yourself through this experience. The best part of this is, when you get over this girl, you will be stronger. I know what it's like to feel that depression. When my ex left me I felt like doing nothing, but I still kept pushing through my college semester, and did very well. It built a lot of character, and it showed me I could achieve things at a high level during difficult times. Go to your interview, try to better yourself, and stay strong. Thank you, I will do everything I can to push through this and better myself. I need to fix alot of things about me before I can start dating anyone again. 2
garnettandblack84 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 yo give us an update on your interview so you have some accountability somewhere to get your ass up and go to it and kick ass. I know for my self, it other people are waiting to hear about something I am 1000% more inclined to do it.
thingshavechanged Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Broke up with my gf of four years last week and I just can't do anything. I don't have any really good friends to confide in. I don't have a job and currently out of school. I do have a test at the post office tomorrow for potential employment but I have zero motivation to get my ass up tomorrow morning and go. I always find myself saying "it'll be ok" and feeling better for a little bit but then I just think about her and get super depressed again. I feel so lonely I have cried a few times since Friday. I don't want to go back to her because I know the relationship was miserable and she said herself it couldn't be fixed. I've tried going for walks, playing video games, watching movies, making music, etc and none of it helps I always end back in the same emotional place. What can I do? you can do it. the first couple days after my ex gf broke up with me,i felt the same way. i cudnt get out of bed, i had no motivation. everything i did didnt seem as much fun whether it was games, drinking, or whatever....on the 3rd day? i realized that i was good before i met her, i can be even better now.
Author srivers89 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 howd the interview go man? It wasn't so much an interview rather a test to see if I'm qualified to be interviewed. None the less I passed and am expected to be called up for an interview soon. Today was better BUT late last night we texted and it turned into an argument she said i was holding her back and we weren't acting our age like we were an old married couple. She said she wants to go to parties and art galleries and out with her friends and she feels like she can't do that when she's with me. I got pissed got real defensive and she basically told me that this was the last time she would talk to me. It sucks but I just have to move on somehow. Everything reminds me of her though, certain songs, shows, movies, etc. I can't shake her. I see or hear things and remember where I was with her and it's like getting kicked in the gut but I just try to move past it quickly remember all the horrible crap she said and focus on me.
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