singme2sleep Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Since it's the weekend and weeekends make me extra sad, I've been thinking about all the things my ex used to say. Therefore I'm going to vent about his empty "promises" and the other stuff that was apparently untrue. The rest of you should feel free to also... 1. "I'm not going anywhere!" 2. We will always be in each other's lives." 3. "You're my future Mrs." 4. "There's no other woman out there like you, I know deep down you're perfect for me!" 5. "Let me be your rock." 6. "Someday when we have kids..." 7. "We met for a reason, this is fate." Remembering these words now is like a knife in my heart. I once heard the expression that you should go by people's actions, not their words. So maybe we should all take vows of silence since nobody tells the truth anymore. 2
Author singme2sleep Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 I was thinking today, that sometimes people run from love when they realise you have fallen in love with someone they are actually not, and maybe you did know them but they leave because they feared too much the rejection/ they rather hurt you and run before you may/would have hurt them. My father said something similiar the other day. In my opinion, there's nothing more ridiculous or cowardly than running away from love!
garnettandblack84 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I can completely relate. The day before my ex broke up with me she was texting me how must she loved me, a couple days before that how much she would always fight for us heart and soul. People have perceived realities which change, and there is no explanation left for us. What I have come to realize is that I have to just move on with my life to become the best person I can for if and when that next person comes along. The most fertile times in life and in despair and heartache. Stop dwelling on what he said it will never help, and start to try and move forward one small step at a time. Whenever I get in my head, I try to stay in my body and feel that emotion. I let the emotion pass through me, and I have gotten a million times better at understanding my feelings and not overthinking them. Still a long way to go, but it has helped me. A lot of times we get in our heads because we don't want to feel our feelings.
iouaname Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 1. "I'm not going anywhere!" 2. We will always be in each other's lives." 3. "You're my future Mrs." 4. "There's no other woman out there like you, I know deep down you're perfect for me!" 5. "Let me be your rock." 6. "Someday when we have kids..." 7. "We met for a reason, this is fate." Yup! I feel like I've heard all of these #5 I heard all the time and guess what? I should never have let him be my rock... 1
destroyed4sho Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 1. i want to get married and have kids with you...your the only person i would want that with 2. your the only person i truly ever loved 3. and just recently...i will ALWAYS love you, I love you still 4. we are engaged 5. ive NEVER felt like this with anyone 6. told me to call her father 'dad' Then a couple weeks later Over text: 1. I dont want to be with you 2.I dont care for you 3.I dont need you 4.I dont want you 5.Im over this 6. Leave me alone! 2
Author singme2sleep Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Yup! I feel like I've heard all of these #5 I heard all the time and guess what? I should never have let him be my rock... The ironic thing is, in the end he wouldn't let me be his rock. Sigh!
Author singme2sleep Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 1. i want to get married and have kids with you...your the only person i would want that with 2. your the only person i truly ever loved 3. and just recently...i will ALWAYS love you, I love you still 4. we are engaged 5. ive NEVER felt like this with anyone 6. told me to call her father 'dad' Then a couple weeks later Over text: 1. I dont want to be with you 2.I dont care for you 3.I dont need you 4.I dont want you 5.Im over this 6. Leave me alone! I think unfortunately, this is why we get cynical and have trouble trusting/believing people.
polyglot Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Lol, this is funny. Love is nothing but a kind of madness. I realize this is pretty generic. Probably when you run into another girl, it's the same you say, but you don't feel or may be even she doesn't feel. They get callous of all of this. So, it's for just pleasure you meet and talk
Amelie1980 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 1. Where have you been all my life. 2. You light up my day, it just feels right in every way. 3. My new house is an investment for our future. 4. I don't ever want to be without you. 5. Our relationship is so strong ....less than a month before the bu. 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 1. Where have you been all my life. 2. You light up my day, it just feels right in every way. 3. My new house is an investment for our future. 4. I don't ever want to be without you. 5. Our relationship is so strong ....less than a month before the bu. Hmmm sounds familiar, especially #4.
polyglot Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 It isn't a f-ing game. It is indeed a f-cked up ****ty game
Author singme2sleep Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 Or when they're breaking up with you and say "I never meant to hurt you..." Like that makes it ok! Smh
Sheilalou008 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 1. Move you and your daughter in so we can start a life and get married. 2. You are my favorite girlfriend I have ever had. You are my best friend and my lover. He kicked me out the next day. 3. You better get use to this cus you have 40 more years with me. 4. You have helped me in so many ways and I would never want to lose that. 5. I love you. I hate even thinking about any of this cus obviously it was all just bull/****.
Author singme2sleep Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 2. You are my favorite girlfriend I have ever had. You are my best friend and my lover. He kicked me out the next day. That's rough. I'm sorry How long did you live together?
Sheilalou008 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 That's rough. I'm sorry How long did you live together? About 9 months. It was terrible. I love in new york state and the winter has been brutally cold and snowy. I had to sleep on a floor for 3 1/2 weeks before I could get all my furniture from his house. I had NOTHING where I moved to but a pillow, blanket, my dog and my daughter.
Author singme2sleep Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 About 9 months. It was terrible. I love in new york state and the winter has been brutally cold and snowy. I had to sleep on a floor for 3 1/2 weeks before I could get all my furniture from his house. I had NOTHING where I moved to but a pillow, blanket, my dog and my daughter. Why did he breakup with you? If you don't mind me asking...
Sheilalou008 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Why did he breakup with you? If you don't mind me asking... We has been fighting a bit more than usual and he was attempting to go sober up. The excuse he gave was that we were not getting along and nothing would get solved while I was still living there. He told me I had a week and I left that night.
Harradin Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 "No matter what happens to us, I'll always love you." "I want to spend the rest of my life with you." "You're my soulmate, I'm scared of losing you." "I'm scared I'll make a huge mistake and lose you." - She certainly did that. :L 1
Author singme2sleep Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 You people can't be this naive. People pay a lot of money to make vows to one another publicly in front of God, Family, Friends, co-workers, etc, live together, share assets, have children, etc. through sickness and till death due them part. Isn't the divorce rate around 50%? When you fall in love with someone new... Are you not going to make a whole new set of "promises" with the new person? Guess you weren't as hardcore about the "promises" you made to your Ex either. Don't mistake "Promises" for "Heat of the moment", "Flavor of the month", hopes, dreams, desire, etc. I meant all the things I said to him...
Addison312 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 If someone ever tells me again that they'll "always love me," that's grounds for a slap across the face or a swift kick in the kneecaps. 3
soccerrprp Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I've personally used the line "I've never met a woman like you before." It was true. I've also told an ex that I loved her. I did and do still. We're still very much a part of each other's lives and "friends", if you can believe that. No romantic involvement. We're both doing our own things, dating. It's an interesting and satisfying relationship on varying levels. But all of these things that people say are SO EMOTIONALLY CHARGED AND IRRATIONAL. At the moment they say them, they likely mean it.
Amelie1980 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Or when they're breaking up with you and say "I never meant to hurt you..." Like that makes it ok! Smh Ti be fair does anyone really start a relationship with the intention of hurting someone?
Amelie1980 Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 You people can't be this naive. People pay a lot of money to make vows to one another publicly in front of God, Family, Friends, co-workers, etc, live together, share assets, have children, etc. through sickness and till death due them part. Isn't the divorce rate around 50%? When you fall in love with someone new... Are you not going to make a whole new set of "promises" with the new person? Guess you weren't as hardcore about the "promises" you made to your Ex either. Don't mistake "Promises" for "Heat of the moment", "Flavor of the month", hopes, dreams, desire, etc. Sometimes you have to have some faith.....
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