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Woggle Established Member

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I am 5'11 and I never had any problem committing to anybody but then again they had to meet high standards. You like what you like but the fact is that if you have these preferences then the people you prefer have their own. That's life.

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I am 5'11 and I never had any problem committing to anybody but then again they had to meet high standards. You like what you like but the fact is that if you have these preferences then the people you prefer have their own. That's life.

What high standards did you have for the women you committed to? I need to know why I am not getting the men that I desire the most

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Woggle's high standards were about things that really mattered like integrity, honesty, communication skills,....

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Green Light Established Member

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We all shrink as we age.

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MrCastle Established Member

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We all shrink as we age.

 

So she should go after 80 year olds then. It's settled.

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Woggle's high standards were about things that really mattered like integrity, honesty, communication skills,....

My standards matter as well. If I do settle with a short guy, it will have to be a non sexual relationship, because the sexual chemistry is not there on my behalf.

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What high standards did you have for the women you committed to? I need to know why I am not getting the men that I desire the most

 

 

"You can't always get what you want" - Rolling Stones

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It's not really about what others might say, although it does look better to be with a taller man. It's just that I have zero attraction to shorter men, even though it seems that my chances of getting into a relationship with one is a bit greater. I just know that i wont be happy and I'd probably end up resenting him for not being what i wanted. I don't want to put someone through that.

 

If we could just get you hooked up with SunDevil.

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Woggle Established Member

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What high standards did you have for the women you committed to? I need to know why I am not getting the men that I desire the most

 

Not looks. I am not that shallow on that front but they need to be mentally and emotionally equipped to have a healthy relationship. We also need to be compatible and want the same things. For example if a woman wanted to move to the country and live on a farm it would not work with me. I don't know so I don't know why you can attract these men. I must be honest though when a woman I dated expressed disdain for shorter guys it was an instant turn off even though I am not short myself.

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So she should go after 80 year olds then. It's settled.

 

 

I'm sure she will be going after the tallest guys in the old age home. Good luck with that!

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My lack of attraction to short men is not being shallow. I'm not that sexually attracted to them, and if there is no sexual attraction its going to be hard to maintain a long term relationship if sex is involved.

Please explain to me how you not being attracted to men based solely on their height is not shallow.

 

Can you list any reasons why a short man is less attractive than a tall man.

 

Just to be clear, if you met this guy in real life, you would not be attracted to him right? That's because he's body is all out of whack from being so short.

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Please explain to me how you not being attracted to men based solely on their height is not shallow.

 

Can you list any reasons why a short man is less attractive than a tall man.

 

Just to be clear, if you met this guy in real life, you would not be attracted to him right? That's because he's body is all out of whack from being so short.

Men are not criticized for not liking women within a certain age bracket. They aren't called shallow and even use biology to justify their desire for younger women.

 

I cannot make myself attracted to short men, sexually, they don't do it for me. I cannot explain why, they just DON'T. I remember HATING sex with my ex, and it had a lot to do with his height. He didn't get my engine going. I didn't like how short his legs were, and his pudgy short little fingers touching me made me want to puke:sick: Although I enjoyed spending time with him, and his companionship but sexually :sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick:

 

And no, I do not like Tom Cruise.

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I'm not sure. I'm very darkskin, perhaps I would have to brighten a few shades. Lightskin women are more in demand.

Oh, you're black? As much as it sucks being a short white man (5'5"), I've often thought that being a short black guy must suck even more.

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You know how many women have said that they just don't feel chemistry with short or shorter guys then come on here later amazed that they met this guy who happened to be shorter that she felt great attraction or chemistry for.

 

Another one I've seen a lot. Women will say they just don't find any shorter man attractive and then to go on and tell this story about, well there was this one short guy that I was just super attracted to.

 

Men.

 

Women like real men. Short or tall.

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You know how many women have said that they just don't feel chemistry with short or shorter guys then come on here later amazed that they met this guy who happened to be shorter that she felt great attraction or chemistry for.

 

Another one I've seen a lot. Women will say they just don't find any shorter man attractive and then to go on and tell this story about, well there was this one short guy that I was just super attracted to.

 

Men.

 

Women like real men. Short or tall.

 

There is no room for sensible posts in here. Please, leave this thread.

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Yeah but the men who are like 5'5 are the ones who seem the most interested. I dont get this.

 

Well guess what, you are hardly an outlier when it comes to needing height for there to be chemistry, as you have said, all the tall guys seem to be taken. Well its a combination of short guys having a broader taste in women due to bias against them (like you) + maybe you having less options than you think. Similar story when I was skinny. It was the fat women that were the friendliest, which was the opposite of what I wanted, and it bugged me. Less options say hello to less options.

Do them a favor and don't get in a relationship with them just because you hate staying single, unless you have a mindset change. Don't give them attitude when they show they like you just because you are frustrated they are not your type. I also find it strange you talk in terms of either tall or short. 5'8 for instance is not tall nor short. Shyte if you are 5' then 5'5 ain't short compared to you.

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Men are not criticized for not liking women within a certain age bracket. They aren't called shallow and even use biology to justify their desire for younger women.

 

I cannot make myself attracted to short men, sexually, they don't do it for me. I cannot explain why, they just DON'T. I remember HATING sex with my ex, and it had a lot to do with his height. He didn't get my engine going. I didn't like how short his legs were, and his pudgy short little fingers touching me made me want to puke:sick: Although I enjoyed spending time with him, and his companionship but sexually :sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick:

 

And no, I do not like Tom Cruise.

 

This is one of the saddest posts I have ever seen on here. Not because of what it says about the man but because of what it says about the OP.

 

MissJones - IMO you really do need to have counselling. To have a voluntary sexual relationship with someone you feel contempt and disgust for reflects on you, not them.

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Badsingularity Established Member

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There is no room for sensible posts in here. Please, leave this thread.

 

You're right.

 

Back to the hilarity.

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Green Light Established Member

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You know how many women have said that they just don't feel chemistry with short or shorter guys then come on here later amazed that they met this guy who happened to be shorter that she felt great attraction or chemistry for.

 

Another one I've seen a lot. Women will say they just don't find any shorter man attractive and then to go on and tell this story about, well there was this one short guy that I was just super attracted to.

 

Men.

 

Women like real men. Short or tall.

 

 

I think that sometimes women are attracted to short guys but they are more afraid of what OTHER WOMEN will think of them for choosing a short guy so they shun the short guy because of that.

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Men are not criticized for not liking women within a certain age bracket. They aren't called shallow and even use biology to justify their desire for younger women.

 

I cannot make myself attracted to short men, sexually, they don't do it for me. I cannot explain why, they just DON'T. I remember HATING sex with my ex, and it had a lot to do with his height. He didn't get my engine going. I didn't like how short his legs were, and his pudgy short little fingers touching me made me want to puke:sick: Although I enjoyed spending time with him, and his companionship but sexually :sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick::sick:

 

And no, I do not like Tom Cruise.

Ok, now I think we are just being trolled.

 

There is no way that Missjoness is a real person.

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Green Light Established Member

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If you add water he might just grow. You never know.

 

 

Sadly, cold water will cause it to shrink. :(

Badsingularity Established Member

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I think that sometimes women are attracted to short guys but they are more afraid of what OTHER WOMEN will think of them for choosing a short guy so they shun the short guy because of that.

 

I am sure that's true in some cases.

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Well guess what, you are hardly an outlier when it comes to needing height for there to be chemistry, as you have said, all the tall guys seem to be taken. Well its a combination of short guys having a broader taste in women due to bias against them (like you) + maybe you having less options than you think. Similar story when I was skinny. It was the fat women that were the friendliest, which was the opposite of what I wanted, and it bugged me. Less options say hello to less options.

Do them a favor and don't get in a relationship with them just because you hate staying single, unless you have a mindset change. Don't give them attitude when they show they like you just because you are frustrated they are not your type. I also find it strange you talk in terms of either tall or short. 5'8 for instance is not tall nor short. Shyte if you are 5' then 5'5 ain't short compared to you.

I don't want to stay single for the rest of my life but at the same time I don't want to go into an unsatisying relationship. I wish I knew what to do
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imo it's more of a primal urge on the part of the female to be dominated.

 

I can see that. But these days it seems like it's the women who wear the pants in most relationships so maybe it's time to put that biology to rest. Primal urges no longer match up well with industrialized society.

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I dont like short men at all but I don't want to be alone for the rest of my life

 

Pretty much means if you want it all you have to make a sacrifice somewhere.

 

Either you stop holding out for a tall guy who has all the other qualities you want (similar to a guy who wants a hot slutty wild girl who seemingly has a brain and charm so he can take her home to mom).

 

Or you go long distance and deal with that. You expand your search and thus go the longer distance to find a tall guy you want.

 

Or you choose to learn to love yourself alone and single until the ideal man in your neck of the woods comes.

 

 

Believe me, I used to hold out for some hot brunette with a nice chest, sexy body, pretty face, who looks hot in a short dress with heels, is outgoing (but not some wild party girl), has a brain, career, etc.

 

Never came. Then I met a women with a smaller chest, nice body, decent face, shorter blonde hair, brain, heart of gold...and...she cared about me.

 

I kick myself for being narrow-minded in the past. Now I can't fathom those other women I used to get hot for.

 

Love is more than height or bust size. Eventually we'll all be old and gray, and thus the "hot" factor won't matter.

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