mortensorchid Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 SO a few weeks ago I was contacted by this man through Facebook. We had talked a few times here and there, then we had arranged to meet. On the day we were supposed to meet, he sent a text saying he had to work that night. I said I understood, work is work and all that. And then ... I heard nothing else from him. See this thread for more info: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/377385-need-some-input I decided if he wanted to reschedule then he would reschedule, but he never did after that, and I was not about to drop a hint about it. On Friday he contacted me again after pretty much a month of not talking to me, asking if I wanted to go to see a UFC fight in another city nearby. I said thanks, but I would not be comfortable going to another city with a person I don't even know. He wrote back that he understood my reservation, just thought it would be fun for a first date. And now ... Nothing again. How come he won't ask for a reasonable time / place? Is he expecting me to make the next move? Why won't he just SAY, right?
MsSmurf Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Because you're probably his plan b and there is someone he has more interest in that may not be working out as well as he'd like. 2
curlygirl40 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I'm probably more commiserating here than helping but.... I had this sort of thing happen as well with a Match guy. THREE times. He would disappear for weeks, then text me out of the blue, make small chit chat and then invite me to a family event or friend dinner or something. He invited me to go with him to a friend's house for a bbq, then he invited me to go to a going away party for a friend, and I forget the third thing I think it was a family thing but I just deleted his number and never answered him after that. He never invited me for a real date and wouldn't text me in between these invites. It was like he had something he needed to go to and didn't want to go alone. I laughed actually the second time especially because for all he knows I'm a train wreck in person and he wants to bring me to a party with his friends? lol I think your guy just had this thing to go to and had no one else to go with so he reached out to you to see if you'd like to join him. It's not really a great first date with someone you've never met. AND if he decided he wanted to take you to this, why not do coffee or something similar for a first date and then keep the UFC fight as a second date? Funny
Author mortensorchid Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 Yes, most likely I am Plan B. Ah well, it happens I guess. In fact, he even posted on Facebook today an update like "There's this girl I really like but now what?". I have a feeling he's not talking about me. But that's not news is it?
Sanitarium Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 (edited) mortensorchid, come move to Chicagoland suburbs. I will date you all day long Would you be interested in a mature 24 year old? Edited March 25, 2013 by Sanitarium
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