Do women care about the type of job a guy has?

[MoreThanThat]

I used to believe it wasn't important as long as they had a passion for something. But several failed relationships since a divorce and I've changed my outlook. Here's why on my side: I have a successful career and am financially stable. I'm in the 1%. In the handful of relationships I've been in since divorce, they all started out with the men being okay with the difference. A few of them thought it was more than okay. I have no issue with it. But eventually it was a primary factor contributing to the breakdown of things. Money directly or the freedoms it brings.

 

I have to be alpha with work and prefer men who are more alpha than me. So the male ego issue inevitably kicked in.

[Shocksock]

Like every other thread on here... the OP is clerly looking for the answer to tell him he can be average, put no effort in, sit home and play video games and eat crap instead of going out there, training, working out, learning skills and putting the extra hours in at thte office to be successful.... and STILL... get a super model.

Well it won't!!!

Yet whenever a man puts in those extra hours for more money the woman then starts complaining about not seeing him enough because he is always at work.

 

The simple answer is that most women will care about the amount of money a man makes while most men care about how good a woman looks but ofcourse everyone is different so that wont always be the case.

[carhill]

I doubt it matters much. I don't mean to be crass but I make a lot more money than most men my age and it has never helped me at all

Think of it as a pre-requisite. One check box of many which must be checked off before you are allowed admittance through the golden gates. Once one adopts that perspective, and accepts it, life gets much easier and, honestly, much more satisfying. As the old saying/song goes, you can't please everyone so you gotta please yourself.

[Treasa]

I would assume that many women are content with a man whose job pays enough for him to support himself

 

This is all I would care about. A guy who can support himself. I can support myself, and wouldn't want to live off his dime or have him live off mine.

[anna121]

Some women will flat-out reject men who hold certain jobs. Notable ones include men in law enforcement, folks in the military, lawyers, university professors, bartenders and those closely involved with politics/government.

 

 

Interesting list, especially those two cats.

 

I'm actually both of those things, but a woman. I will say that, once I became a lawyer, I did NOT want to marry another one out of concern that it would inspire boredom.

 

Anyway, yes, what a guy does is fairly important. More important to me is compatible education. I had an amazing boyfriend who was a chef. Truly lovely guy - still think of him fondly - but ultimately we couldn't really talk about stuff in ways that were fulfilling to me. And the hours were atrocious.

[Estate]

This part right here. Just another example of an extreme on both sides.

 

 

 

You are assuming that the OP wants a super model wife. You are also assuming that he "sit at home and play video games while eating crap".

 

Lastly, you are assuming that just because you work out, learn skills, and put extra hours in the office (but what? You have to get the opportunity to even do that part. Good luck with that in this economy.) and all of the sudden, every woman that you even so much as you look at would kiss your fit wanting to be with you.

 

Wake up! The world doesn't work like that.

 

oH WAH, WAH WAH!

 

Life is what YOU make it, not someone else!

 

It's always someone else's fault in your mind.

Yes, I AM assuming the OP wants a super model wife... because he sounds like the kind of guy (like many guys here) who say they can't get anyone yet are probably ignoring the signs from women all around them because these girls aren't the ones he see's on tv or in porn or whatever. Then cries that he can't get girls.

 

Learn skills and ANY women will be with you? You are freaking delusional! Seriously, seek help!

You all sound lie you sit home, eating crap and watching TV and hating on everything around you... well at least if you get out to learn skills, play a sport, be social, or whatever... at least you are meeting people and EVERYONE likes people who at least have more going for them than watching tv in their underwear... of course its more attractive, what messed up world do you live in?

 

Oh, the economy.... wah, wah wah... what a cop out... it's ALWAYS someone else's fault isn't it???

Well yes, we could debate the economy for weeks here... but guess what... everyone I hear complaining about it for weeks are the people who sit and expect everything to fall into their lap, they expect things to be given to them without working harder for it.

 

Then there are those who don't complain, they figure out ways to make it work... not EVERYONE is struggling to survive. And don't tell me they are all privileged and born with a silver spoon. I'm not rich by any means but I earn a damn good living because I work hard and go above and beyond the requirements of my 9-5 in order to be successful.

 

 

If someone is a "fixer" and is motivated, it's EASY to achieve ANYTHING... but it takes time to learn the skills and apply them as needed to succeed.

 

But that's the problem... guy on here DON'T want to change and DON'T want answers... they just want to whinge and whine that the world is stacked against them and then IGNORE all the advice they get to FIX it because its "TOO HARD" and means they have to get off their ass and spend weeks/months/years to get what they eventually want. But those who HAVE those things... that's what they ALL did, no matter what you think.

 

It's not me who needs a wakeup call.

[Estate]

Yet whenever a man puts in those extra hours for more money the woman then starts complaining about not seeing him enough because he is always at work.

 

Bull****. Pure whiny Bull****.

[serial muse]

Interesting list, especially those two cats.

 

Haha, yeah, the university professors one in particular surprised me. Why would people steer clear of a prof?

[camillalev]

Yes, the kind that he loves.

[Zulnex]

Some women will flat-out reject men who hold certain jobs. Notable ones include men in law enforcement, folks in the military, lawyers, university professors, bartenders and those closely involved with politics/government.

 

That is absolutely true.

I would also like to add long haul truck drivers to the list.

So many of my fellow co-workers (drivers) have had serious marriage problems. Their wives left them since they were always on the road.

It is very hard to make a relationship work if someone is away for days at a time. Trying to squeeze a relationship in 36 hours off duty, is extremely challenging.

Since I fall into the same category, I am not even thinking of dating before I find a job in my field (med. lab.) or something similar, where I can be home more often and have some social life.

Edited March 30, 2013 by Zulnex

[Shepp]

I reckon it probably does matter but in different ways to different people.

Like I'm a firefighter, girls who want guys who'll be rich might be put off, as might girls who are chasing the spotlight and want a guy with a job in the public eye, some girls would be put of because of the shift work I have to do. Yet overall being a fireman has a certain reputation of attracting the ladies.

 

I reckon work must fall in the same catogary as hobbies tbh! Like play a lot of sport including boxing and mountain biking which could be considered a bit dangerous - that would put off some girls but would attract others!

[Joyvke]

None of my boyfriends ever had a high paying job, but I don't care if I'd were to earn more money then him. As long as he enjoys the job I'm fine with it. I don't need a holiday every year anyway.