Whizzya Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Is the kind of job a guy has, important to you when it comes to dating that person?
iKING Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Superficial ones put heavy emphasis on high power/income positions, yes. I would assume that many women are content with a man whose job pays enough for him to support himself and her (or a child should they consider it), should the circumstance arise. It is also desirable to have a job you either truly enjoy, or at the very least, don't dislike, with the intent of working toward one you do enjoy. Not many people enjoy their SO being in a crappy mood every day due to strong dislike for their job. It is also beneficial to be working with something you're passionate about, or have worked toward through dedication or hard work. It shows an individual's overall drive and capacity for commitment. 5
Krieger Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) woman should care IMO. I work but I cant feed a family on what i make so I am doing some thing about it. Edited March 24, 2013 by Krieger
musemaj11 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Is the kind of job a guy has, important to you when it comes to dating that person? This is like asking, "Is the sky blue?" The answer is "HELL YEA DUDE! DUH!" 1
Estate Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Is the kind of job a guy has, important to you when it comes to dating that person? Of course it has some effect. 2 identical twins. One is a burnout with no job and no ambition past partime at Burger King. The other is a successful confident, self sufficient, CEO. Who do you want to know?
Standard-Fare Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I care about jobs, but not in the sense that they need to be making a ton of money or have a certain "status" or even a high level of ambition. I just like to see that a person is pursuing something they actually care about, rather than just going through the motions (or worse, hating their job and letting it suck away the joy of existence). Life is short, and people who are stuck in jobs they despise are wasting a large chunk of their time on earth. It takes true knowledge of yourself, true confidence, and a lot of effort, to go for your real goals. I find it especially attractive when there's an idealistic or "helping others" aspect to the work. So, for example, I was really turned on by a guy I dated who was a teacher in a really sh*tty city public school. I thought that was noble and cool, and I didn't give a sh*t that he lived in a crappy basement apartment and couldn't afford to take me out to dinner. On the other hand, I found myself turned OFF by a guy who had a stable, high-paying IT job but hated his work and bitched about it constantly. This guy was a really techie genius and I knew he could have been doing something remarkable and creative with his brain had he taken the risks and efforts to pursue it. This might sound high-minded, and yeah the economy blows and people gotta support themselves and make a living, so obviously I apply some realism to these situations. 3
NeoGen85 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 From my perspective I think it does matter if you want to live comfortably. Many women(and men) would like to be with someone who's at least in the position to move up the ladder to make more money. I actually have a few friends who will not date anyone unless they have a decent income. Their own parents were able to provide a somewhat comfortable life for 4 children. If you thought 1 child was expensive then 4 is definitely up there. They're women who want large families as well because they grew up with a lot of siblings.
ltjg45 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 2 identical twins. One is a burnout with no job and no ambition past partime at Burger King. The other is a successful confident, self sufficient, CEO. Who do you want to know? Wow. Two extremes. Gotta love it. You can't do any better than this?
carhill Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 IME, not having a quantifiable career, meaning one where prospects/salary/benefits are easily determined, my historical read has been 'yes', women of my generation prefer that which can be easily and accurately accounted for, without ambiguity. By 'women of my generation' I mean those who are considering a man for a life partner/spouse/father for their children. I think that is a valid assessment for them to make. I simply choose a path less popular with the women of my generation. I'm OK with that. 1
bac Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Is the kind of job a guy has, important to you when it comes to dating that person? If the dating is not ONSs/FWBs, a guy's job is the most important thing.
StanMusial Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I would have to say yes. Most professional women are not going to try to date the janitor in their building. Also, financial security is a big deal when considering a future with someone. In the vast majority of cases your job either provides this or doesn't provide it.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Yes, if they're looking for a relationship and to settle down...especially late 20's, 30's where they may want to start to a family soon...so that is highly important for many. They might bang the guy at the supermarket or taco bell, but for the long-term the requirements are going to be a bit different, so a guy they might not have even considered years ago they might be looking at now in a different light....security and stability are big factors for many women. Some however are less inclined or concerned, depends on their background and what they value. Some women aren't willing to make the trade-off for stability versus attraction/romantic interest...however some are looking for both...the "perfect man" when in reality you're more than likely going to have to sacrifice some things for another...if that man does have those dual qualities of the spectrum, he's going to be a hard catch with all those women fighting over him. Do what you want to do, pursue what you want to pursue...women appreciate a man with a plan, and ambition...but the key is to not make decisions or choices in your life based on what is going to satisfy someone else...if they're looking for X guy, let them go and do that. Be comfortable in your own skin and life, and let women make their own choices on who to date...but yes it does have an affect, but then again...women care about EVERYTHING 5
NeoGen85 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I care about jobs, but not in the sense that they need to be making a ton of money or have a certain "status" or even a high level of ambition. I just like to see that a person is pursuing something they actually care about, rather than just going through the motions (or worse, hating their job and letting it suck away the joy of existence). Life is short, and people who are stuck in jobs they despise are wasting a large chunk of their time on earth. It takes true knowledge of yourself, true confidence, and a lot of effort, to go for your real goals. I find it especially attractive when there's an idealistic or "helping others" aspect to the work. So, for example, I was really turned on by a guy I dated who was a teacher in a really sh*tty city public school. I thought that was noble and cool, and I didn't give a sh*t that he lived in a crappy basement apartment and couldn't afford to take me out to dinner. On the other hand, I found myself turned OFF by a guy who had a stable, high-paying IT job but hated his work and bitched about it constantly. This guy was a really techie genius and I knew he could have been doing something remarkable and creative with his brain had he taken the risks and efforts to pursue it. This might sound high-minded, and yeah the economy blows and people gotta support themselves and make a living, so obviously I apply some realism to these situations. I agree. When I date there are a lot of women who ask me what I do. Some may associate my occupation with having a lot of disposable income. I use to date a high maintenance woman who always wanted to spend money than save it. I could never convince her to do a dinner and movie; or perhaps a date at the bowling alley either. Everything involved spending more money than I usually wanted and slowly I decided to be less available to her. 1
Estate Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Wow. Two extremes. Gotta love it. You can't do any better than this? What is your point? Guys keep asking questions here like "Do girls like this, do they like that..." The answer is, it always depends, it depends on hundreds of other factors too. But if we are making it that simple then just compare two identical people, one is a burnout, one is highly successfull.... of course that plays a factor in it! Like every other thread on here... the OP is clerly looking for the answer to tell him he can be average, put no effort in, sit home and play video games and eat crap instead of going out there, training, working out, learning skills and putting the extra hours in at thte office to be successful.... and STILL... get a super model. That's what all these threads are about! The OP's who ask these questions want quick fix answers telling them they can make ZERO effort and still get all they want handed on a plate to them. The answers are obvious... it's not about X,Y and Z that they are asking if girls like... it's that they KNOW that putting time and effort into ANYTHING to improve their life makes them more attractive but are too lazy to do anything about it and want to hear someone tell them it's all ok.... it's BS!!! Well it won't!!! 2
fortyninethousand322 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 It really depends. Plenty of women will date the starving artist types, while many prefer a workaholic. Depends on the woman.
ltjg45 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 What is your point? This part right here. Just another example of an extreme on both sides. Like every other thread on here... the OP is clerly looking for the answer to tell him he can be average, put no effort in, sit home and play video games and eat crap instead of going out there, training, working out, learning skills and putting the extra hours in at thte office to be successful.... and STILL... get a super model. You are assuming that the OP wants a super model wife. You are also assuming that he "sit at home and play video games while eating crap". Lastly, you are assuming that just because you work out, learn skills, and put extra hours in the office (but what? You have to get the opportunity to even do that part. Good luck with that in this economy.) and all of the sudden, every woman that you even so much as you look at would kiss your fit wanting to be with you. Wake up! The world doesn't work like that.
miss_jaclynrae Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 No... it is the end goal that matters to me and what he is doing to accomplish it. 1
soccerrprp Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Like SO many other things, it depends on the individual. Not everyone is fixated on the amount of money or job the partner makes or has, thank goodness. I dated someone who was more interested in what and how much than finding love...ugh.
carhill Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 As an example of what I was relating prior, I'll add the last day: 1. Signed tenants, a nice guy who drives bus for our city and his wife and three children, to a year lease on one of my properties. Educated them a bit about lease options and shared that, once their credit had improved some, I might consider taking back a mortgage on the property if they wish to purchase it. 2. That done, I went with my best friend up to another friends house to review a construction job I'm working on, moving some electrical and installing a animal door for them in the structure. Upon returning home, I dug through inventory in the shop for the requisite parts to do the job and made a list of things to get. 3. Continued work on a powered almond shredder attachment for a tractor which failed in service. Did some welding and machine work. Had a few beers after. 4. Doing yard work today. I can't justify paying a few hundred a month to have a professional manage the 1/2 acre of landscape stuff. So I do it myself. Eating lunch right now. I wonder what the tenants thought of the landlord driving the 30yo car and talking to them about finance. Probably a bit confusing. Nonetheless, I've got a few grand in my pocket and on to the next project and next day in my unquantifiable 'career'. Like my best friend answers people who ask what he does, I usually say 'I fix stuff', which is absolutely true. It's generally not a satisfactory answer to single women of my generation, at least those I've met in life. OTOH, my friend's wives love me, since they've stuck around to get to know the whole person, not just the job/numbers. 2
GravityMan Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 As long as the job isn't "drug dealer" or "pimp" or some other job that's considered morally questionable or whatever...it probably isn't a big deal in general. But it ultimately just depends... Some people prefer to date others in a similar field or line of work as themselves. A nurse dating a pharmacist. A software/hardware engineer dating an IT manager. A writer dating a musician (both creative). This is understandable, since (a) it may be easier to relate and (b) many people's social circles include folks in their field/industry. Some women will flat-out reject men who hold certain jobs. Notable ones include men in law enforcement, folks in the military, lawyers, university professors, bartenders and those closely involved with politics/government. Others don't care too much about the kind of job...what matters far more to them is that you have some sort of direction, ambition or passion in your life. Don't be lazy or the "going thru the motions" type. Even if you currently have a "dead-end" job...if you have motivation and goals to eventually get to a better and happier stage in your professional life...many women won't mind. I think many folks are turned off by workaholics a.k.a. those who are "married to their job". A solid work/life balance is preferable. 1
Sanitarium Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I doubt it matters much. I don't mean to be crass but I make a lot more money than most men my age and it has never helped me at all
xdahliax Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I care about the type of job a man has to a certain extent. I want for him to able to keep up with the lifestyle that I am used to, such as going out to dinner or drinks quite often and going on vacation a few times per year. Aside from salary, I like to see ambition in men. I like to see guys follow their passion, take risks, and to place importance on bettering themselves (nothing that I don't expect of myself). If the guy is happy with an entry-level position and has no desire to move beyond that, it is a definite turnoff for me.
ses Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 As long as he's happy in his position of employment and can support himself financially then the type of job shouldn't matter. I'd rather date a teacher making $40k a year but is an attentive and caring partner than a stockbroker who's never available but brings home the proverbial bacon. I've had guys brag about their incomes... what a turn-off. Humility matters more than dollars.
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