shatteredworld Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 After he broke up with me because he cheated on me. First he told me he wasn't looking for anyone else, he didn't want anyone else, and he thought the best thing would be for him to be single. He said he thought he was a lost cause as if he could never love someone like he loved me. He told me I had his heart, and he didn't want to have it back unless we were together again. Now it's 4-5 weeks later and he's in a new relationship and they have tons of kissing pictures together. This made me feel like my heart was stabbed multiple times. Did he just lie to me? Or is it possible he is just with her to be with someone cause I don't understand why someone could just lead me on like that when we were already broken up. I know I shouldn't care, since he's obviously an a-hole but it's so hard to accept that he just lied that much to me.
anna121 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 After he broke up with me because he cheated on me. First he told me he wasn't looking for anyone else, he didn't want anyone else, and he thought the best thing would be for him to be single. He said he thought he was a lost cause as if he could never love someone like he loved me. He told me I had his heart, and he didn't want to have it back unless we were together again. Now it's 4-5 weeks later and he's in a new relationship and they have tons of kissing pictures together. This made me feel like my heart was stabbed multiple times. Did he just lie to me? Or is it possible he is just with her to be with someone cause I don't understand why someone could just lead me on like that when we were already broken up. I know I shouldn't care, since he's obviously an a-hole but it's so hard to accept that he just lied that much to me. Of course you care. Totally normal. You will never get a satisfying answer so stop searching for one. Block any access to information about his life. 1
Kz91 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I've been through the same kind of thing. My ex girlfriend dumped me because at the time she said, she's not feeling like herself. Everything is getting to much and she can't deal with it anymore. But then she also said whilst she was in a relationship with me she wants someone else, too. It killed me, but I still stayed with her because I was so in love with her. So we got back together, even though she wanted someone else. So I find out later that she was in a realtionship with him and me at the same time, this was towards the last few weeks of our relationship. She dumped for another guy, it kills. But I promise you it gets easier.
Author shatteredworld Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 I've been through the same kind of thing. My ex girlfriend dumped me because at the time she said, she's not feeling like herself. Everything is getting to much and she can't deal with it anymore. But then she also said whilst she was in a relationship with me she wants someone else, too. It killed me, but I still stayed with her because I was so in love with her. So we got back together, even though she wanted someone else. So I find out later that she was in a realtionship with him and me at the same time, this was towards the last few weeks of our relationship. She dumped for another guy, it kills. But I promise you it gets easier. I just always thought he was such a great guy, nicest guy I've ever met. Now he's done all these things that don't align with each other and it's just so hard accepting that he lied to me this entire time. The only thing that kept me going after the break up was thinking that I was still important to him. Clearly our relationship meant nothing even though he told me it meant everything.
NewPerspective93 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Don't search for an answer, it's not worth your investment of time. Time to move on. I'm assuming you saw these pictures through FB, correct? Block them. This is necessary for your moving on. You'll be tempted in looking at their FB for that answer you don't need. Betrayal can be a b*tch, but stuff like this happens. The only thing you have left is moving on for your sake. This guy seems like he doesn't know what he wants. Don't be a color on his palette, you're worth more than just a color choice. Do something to keep your mind off of this. This is hard, I know, but things will get better as time progresses. Cheers.
ThatJustHappened Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 He's totally an a-hole..and this 'relationship' is totally a rebound. He's trying to fill the shatteredworld-shaped hole in his heart with a new girl. This happens all the time. Move on..he's not worth your time. And definitely block him every which way from Sunday. Don't go looking for kissy faced pictures of him, or digging for information about him..it's only going to hurt you more, and it won't affect him at all.
Kz91 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I just always thought he was such a great guy, nicest guy I've ever met. Now he's done all these things that don't align with each other and it's just so hard accepting that he lied to me this entire time. The only thing that kept me going after the break up was thinking that I was still important to him. Clearly our relationship meant nothing even though he told me it meant everything. I know right? It was the same thing with my ex, the nicest girl I did meet at one point. I thought she would never hurt me, cheat on me, or leave me, let alone jump into another relationship that fast. It hurts, but just don't waste anymore thinking about it.
Author shatteredworld Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 You guys are completely right. I'm trying to just do other things and not go on FB or anything anymore since I can't handle seeing it. I've blocked their profiles and everything, I hope I can move on easier from this now even though it's always on my mind and the images of them together is constantly being played over and over in my head
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