Weekends are tough

[McGriff]

As I lie here in bed on Sunday morning, I look over at her spot where she was but a few weeks ago and just miss her terribly. Have gone almost a week NC, and I'm just missing her really bad. Venting. I can't help but wonder if she's thinking of me too. I mean, just two weeks ago today she sent me the breadcrumb of text of wanting to "snuggle with" me. I know that my only choice is to remain NC, for my own good, but that doesn't mean I don't hurt. I'm kinda angry at myself for feeling this way, as I need to just "man up" and move on. I know eventually I will, as this is simply part of the process. What's funny is, I've gone out a couple times and met women, but they do absolutely NOTHING for me. Obviously I'm not ready for dating, but the loneliness is stifling. It's like a catch 22. Anyway, thanks for listening, I know I am not alone, and I take a little bit of comfort in that.

[Skalabanan]

Weekends are my biggest downfall.

 

I've actually turned down an offer from work to have a Friday off work as I don't currently want a prolonged weekend with my thoughts.

 

Next weekend is Easter weekend and I have a four day weekend, this scenario used to be exciting and blissful (even before my relationship) but now it fills me with dread.

 

Your not alone but it will get better!

[youngnlove89]

whenever you leave something you loved so much that meant the entire world to you, there comes a long process in reaction to it. you’re thrusted into something that feels like somewhere you’ve never been before, but it’s the exact same place you’ve been in. sometimes your heart needs a long restart to realize how it feels to be off your sleeve, and back in your own chest. it takes time.

[na49]

This week is my spring break and it's been torture so far. I work a few days and have plans with friends on a few others. but I'm dreading this week and really just want to go back to school.

 

I'm honestly afraid of summer vacation because of all of the time I might spend alone. Last summer, I was always talking to her, we made plans so I had stuff to look forward to. This summer, I'll have no one.

[TheFriend]

I hate weekends as well, there is nothing worse then looking over in my bed where my ex once slept. You are not alone, I have gone out with a few women as well and I am just numb. You don't need to "man up". You need to grieve your loss. It is healthy and will help you in the long run. Be sad, cry if you need to. I have always been a tough man but I have been absolutely emotionally crippled by losing my ex. There is no time table on your grieving. when your mind and body are ready, they will let go. NC is soo difficult but it will help in the end. I have broken NC and felt like I ripped out stitches before a wound healed. It makes you feel good at the time but only makes things worse the next day.

 

Hope your Sunday gets better.

[iouaname]

I know how you feel! This weekend has been very tough for me. Most weekends are. It's tough because I assume he's out enjoying himself and sometimes I just end up feeling bad for myself.

[MarinaX]

A week for me as well. I got out of a long distance relationship with someone I talked to all day through texts and phone calls. My problem isn't the morning but the fact that my phone hardly ever rings or vibrates. I get texts here and there from friends but for the most part, I have no one to share the happenings of my day with anymore. Lost a best friend and a boyfriend. It's only been a week and I know it'll be hard for a while but I have no choice. I have no choice but to move on so I try to actively think that I may as well start now. I know this isn't the best suggestion BUT maybe when you wake up, get out of bed right away and go to the gym. It'll take your focus off her and put it on you and not only that but you'll focus on self improvement. You're not alone though. Hope things get better for you soon!

[AloneInParadise]

"you’re thrusted into something that feels like somewhere you’ve never been before, but it’s the exact same place you’ve been in."

 

Well said, yougnlove89.

 

It reminds me of the song "Wasted Time" from the Eagles when he says, "Oh my God I can't believe it's happening again... Your baby's gone and your alone alone and it looks like the end.

 

And then goes on to say. "you never thought you'd be alone this far down the line"

 

I'm in this exact same spot now and not only do I hurt I am scared to start over.

[LostGirl11]

Weekends are always tough, but just do things you enjoy, even if it's nothing! Watch crap tv, eat crap food, rent a few movies. It doesn't matter what she's doing. Just look after you!

 

The mornings were always the hardest for me, but I soon got into a habbit. Instead of laying there crying and letting my thoughts run wild I'd jump out of bed, open the blindes, turn the radio on and get on with stuff.

 

Be strong

[NewPerspective93]

I'm sorry you're going through this.

 

This is part of the moving on process. Take it one day at a time.

 

Keep yourself busy, do something! Sitting and doing nothing is like a magnet to these detrimental thoughts. You don't want that, right?

 

You have control of your situation on your behalf; why spend it in bed thinking about someone who doesn't feel for you? Go out, and smile for you are alive.

 

You'll be much stronger once you come out the other side.

 

Cheers.

[McGriff]

Thanks for the replies. Misery loves company I guess! Yeah, someone mentioned Easter next weekend, and I've never dreaded a long weekend so much. Talk about loneliness. I know no one here condones alcohol, but I can see me going on a three day bender. Not running from the pain, just trying for a brief respite.

[Kz91]

I thought I was the only one. I hate the weekends so much, it makes me feel ten times worser, my mind goes into overdrive and I feel so alone. Especially when she's probably out with him having fun, drives me insane.

 

It's the Easter break soon, I'm dreading it. Summer break though, wow. Really not ready for it! Especially as things were so different last summer. Sucks.