chelsea2011 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I posted this in "cheating flirting and jealousy" and thought I would post it here as well to get your opinions. Went on a date to see a live show and there was a girl that planted herself next to us and began talking to us. Everytime she got up to go get something we would have to let her by and she would put her hand on my dates chest as she passed. When he got up to let her out she put her hands on his shoulder, touched his chest and would almost put her body up against his. He seemed to enjoy it! The the last time she came back she sat there posing like crazy and flipping her hair like she wanted to get his attention. He would constantly bend forward and stare at her feet as she had on heels and was arching her feet in a way that looked sexy. I felt so uncomfortable and it ruined the evening for me to be honest. It was so obvious AND bad that I felt like I should just switch seats and let him go ahead and enjoy the show with her. Now here is the problem. I mentioned it to him in a friendly joking manner as we were leaving and he completely discounted my feelings as if I was being silly and said, "oh, she was just being friendly." THEN she made a point to walk across our path as we were leaving. I should also mention that he has had jealousy issues with me and believe me, if the shoe were on the other foot there would have been hell to pay from him. I don't trust him now. I don't feel safe opening my heart to him because I feel like he would be careless with it. I feel like breaking it off now before I get any more invested in this situation. It's a situation that I don't want or need if that is how it's going to be. Was he just being naive or is this a red flag? Thanks in advance for your thoughts.
Author chelsea2011 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 I totally get the looking thing and I honestly do not have a problem with that at all. In this case though it was pretty much in my face and he fell for her antics hook line and sinker right in front of me. I have been treated like this once before and the guy turned out to be a cheater and this reminded me of the red flags I saw then and ignored. I don't feel safe with this guy now to be honest. Shouldn't a guy be more attentive to the woman he's with on the date than another woman who is going out of her way to get noticed by him? Believe me, I'm not the jealous type, but this situation made me feel so uncomfortable. PLUS there is a history between us regarding HIS jealousy about me.
Author chelsea2011 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) If a female is attractive, I think it is not uncommon for a man to check her out (even with a girlfriend/significant other), that's what we do. Even if you think a man isn't looking, they probably are looking out of the corner of their eye. If he didn't get her number, and they won't see each other again I'd just drop it, if you like him. If he is expendable, drop him lol. She may very well have given him her number though. The last time she left her seat he stood up and she got real close to him and put her hand on his chest and then slid it toward his hand as she was walking away and whispered something to him. You see now why my alarm is going off? It was such an in your face situation I couldn't help but feel like an outsider. So yeah, this wasn't your innocent taking a look situation at all. Anyway, thanks for your advice. I think I've made up my mind and I'm going to break it off before I get in any deeper. Certainly do not need this kind of drama in my life. Edited March 24, 2013 by chelsea2011
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