bollixology Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Hi all just wondering what your take on this situation is, Been strict NC for 9 weeks on this coming Tuesday, she broke it off with me I insinuated NC and she has kept to it. Did all the things that are outlined number deleted, old emails, email addresses, gone from FB, all things belonged to her gone from sight all done within days of the final break p. About an hour ago I received a text, I know her number in my head so i knew it was her when I looked at my phone, sat down with a coffee and had cigarett prior to opening it to try and remain calm and then read it.,......."Hi $%^&* hear" that was all. Now from reading it I believe a rational person would think that its a text for someone else that she sent to me....but at this moment in time I am not a rational person, I know I have used this trick in the past to quietly make contact with females(not while in the relationship, you can see reasons for break up in older posts of mine) and i know she has done it to me when in the distant past things were at a cross roads between us .....immature perhaps I know but hey I think we have all at least thought about it...... Now I know she has been out of the country for the last number of months(still unsure if she is back or not) and perhaps she may be texting someone she met who perhaps has the same name as me who knows, but to me it stinks of an attempt for me to make contact with her as she has set the ball in motion so to speak..... Now I have no intention of texting her back and have just handed over my phone for safe keeping to my sister for a day or two(she was in m y place when I received the text) as I just cant deal with it right now as I am extremely busy with work commitments and don't want to be staring at my phone wishing for a more meaningful attempt at contact from her side or make the mistake of texting back. I know I have done the right thing for me at this time but I am just wondering are people as cynical as me in thinking that this is perhaps coming from a person who had a hard night on the booze and is lying in bed lonely with only regrets to keep them warm or was this was an honest mistake?
Damsel in Distress Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Wow. I've never heard of somebody intentionally sending something mysterious to reel in a reply - if that was intentional all I can say is that it seems very immature. I would be hard-pressed to come up with a feasible way that could have been sent as an accident. But the main thing I wanted to reply to was to say how VERY impressed I am with your willpower. I love that you gave yourself a break before reading the text. Gosh I'm sure you had a physical reaction when you saw that number pop up after that long of silence. And I'm super impressed that you handed off your phone for safe keeping. What a smart guy! I may have to try that one myself. What a great way to avoid temptation. I know sometimes I find myself with my finger on the dial button - just so hard to resist that urge. I'm so surprised at all the stories I keep reading on here about the dumper breaking NC after weeks and weeks. After that many weeks I would think we should feel safe - that okay, this is truly done, I'm not going to hear from them again. Then BAM out of the blue. It almost seems inconsiderate of the dumper - like picking off a scab on the dumpee that was almost healed. Stay strong.
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