GreyhoundtoNowhere Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I've read the things about your situation, including with H. A lot is similar to how my situation was. But, just be sure if you are gonna give it all to your M and choose that route that that's what you do-- I got to a place, where regardless of how 'great' my H was, and how much I loved him, and that he was my best friend.... and we had all these wonderful things (but not great sex)... the things missing were still missing. And when I was sadder about not being with MM and the possibility of losing him more so than what I was doing to my H-- I knew it wasn't fair to him. To "be with him" because i knew he loved me and would be true to me. So, really reflect on that-- and what is right for everyone. Including your H (especially if he's your best friend like you say.) Good luck.
stevie_23 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I guess I feel like you cared enough that you always had some hope....That SOMETHING would happen to turn things around. It shows committment. Reading some of these stories really make me sad. People enter into non affair based "normal" relationships every day that dont work out. Then you hear some of these stories that because of circumstances(not falling out of love), cannot materialize. And I know about all of the people that say "its just all good because of the bubble", well I dont necessarily buy into that. It could be that, but it also could be something special, too. Just too sad.... TFOY It IS sad. Very sad. I feel this is what happened in terms of my ex-MM and me. It couldn't work because of the circumstances, but we also DID both enter into the affair with those circumstances (although admittedly they did change quite a lot during the 2 years we were together). If circumstances had been at the beginning how they were in the end, we wouldn't have gotten together in the first place as it would've been impossible. 1
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