Lost78 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 I think dumpers tend to go one way or the other..They are either very keen to make up and keep giving breadcrumbs, even though they don't want to go back to you...or they ignore you completely. I don't think I have heard of a dumper who stays middle ground. May_Girl, what would be the middle ground for the dumpers actions. If he is nice and a friend, that is giving false hope and breadcrumbs. The best thing a dumper can do for the dumpee is ignore them unless they sincerely want to reconcile.
js1967 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 In my specific case, I was offered a statement of "I hope we can still be friends." thank god I was strong enough to give a resounding "HELL NO" She felt bad about breaking up with me, I understand that...its a tough thing to do and Im sure she had to build up the strength to do it. The friendship offer was in my opinion something to help her deal with her own guilt. She wanted me out of her life, period....and thats fine really, she is aloud to make that choice in her life. Sux to be me...but I dont want to be with anyone who doesnt want to be with me. I was very clear in saying this was 100% her choice to break up and no I do not want to be friends. I am not a mean person at all, but Im not going to have my emotions played with for her own personal closure and moving on with doing whatever and possibly with who ever she may be with now. In my opinion, Just stay clear, dont be friends, shut the door tight as you can and move on. Good luck.
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