Testing30 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 So this is my first post after weeks of viewing various threads on LS. 2 months ago I split up with my partner of 4 years - We had been on and off throughout the years as she lived away from home and always seemed to end our relationship when things got tough with distance. I'd always wait around though and eventually about 2 years ago she moved back home. We moved in to her parents and lived there. She had been pursing her dream career during that time whilst I tried to support her during it. We had an age gap of 6 years and so although I didn’t enjoy my job she was starting out in her career and I felt it was important for me to support her (shes 23 im 29). Then 8 weeks ago she told me she wasn't sure what she wanted and didnt think she was in love with me anymore so we split up.I have tried to move on with things and had been doing ok but now iv slipped to feeling even worse than ever. I spend all day analysing things in my head. I have always done it but now its worse than ever. Id spent years believing that I would meet the one and that would be it. Now i feel lost and Im asking myself so many different questions like what did I do wrong, why did she always tell me id smothered her when all I did was love her? And Im trying to pick myself up all the time as people say that I need to but I find it so hard. The hardest thing I find though is because we broke up and got back together I keep thinking one day it will happen. How do people move on from this? Am a being to hard on myself for having these thoughts?
LMNO Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Tricky situation bro, I'm kinda in the same sort of situation, at least when it comes to the having broken up before so your hoping it will happen again. First question I have is related to this- "Id spent years believing that I would meet the one and that would be it". Where you thinking this during those 4 years that you were with her? If so, seems to me like she isn't "the one" then. I cant really give you much advice, as I'm struggling myself with all of the same issue's and then some. Believe me man, I feel your pain. Id say give it some time, and her the space she has requested to figure out what she wants. If she comes back then your back in it. You could very well realize during that time that there's better things out there for yourself as well. I know all of that is easier said then done. I'm struggling to pick up the pieces and move past it also. Good luck to you bro
Author Testing30 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Tricky situation bro, I'm kinda in the same sort of situation, at least when it comes to the having broken up before so your hoping it will happen again. First question I have is related to this- "Id spent years believing that I would meet the one and that would be it". Where you thinking this during those 4 years that you were with her? If so, seems to me like she isn't "the one" then. I cant really give you much advice, as I'm struggling myself with all of the same issue's and then some. Believe me man, I feel your pain. Id say give it some time, and her the space she has requested to figure out what she wants. If she comes back then your back in it. You could very well realize during that time that there's better things out there for yourself as well. I know all of that is easier said then done. I'm struggling to pick up the pieces and move past it also. Good luck to you bro Thanks for your reply and Im sorry to hear you're going through the same thing. With regards to thinking about the one - When I met her I thought she was the one and we would be together forever. I guess thats why this is so hard. Its definitely over this time - she made that clear so I know deep down we wont get back together and that's why its so hard. I want to stop all these difficult thoughts thats whats the hardest thing! I hope you can pick things up to!
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