lockedoutofheaven Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 My ex broke up with me about 7 months ago (after a 1.5 year relationship) due to commitment issues, and just things getting weird and tense. I did not take it well at all, and still have trouble dealing with it once in a while. I just miss the guy a whole lot. Typical he was my best friend, we did everything together, blah blah blah. I haven't been perfectly NC. I misbehaved a lot by texting, calling, emailing, etc. I freaked out on him and since then he's wanted nothing to do with me. However, since breaking up I have been taking active steps to grow and try to move on. It definitely gets easier with time, but I still miss him. I've: - signed up for a marathon - run/workout 3x week - lost 10lbs - joined a sports team - gotten involved in new hobbies and interests - read a lot more - hang out more with friends/made new friends/way more social - I've gone on tons of dates but nobody has really caught my interest enough to really see on a regular basis - travelled overseas, and currently planning another trip To be fair, before it ended, I did think of ending it myself too. Just because I knew he was probably never going to commit, the relationship wasn't ever going to go anywhere, and I wasn't quite living the life I wanted to be living. There is still a lot I want to do and experience that I probably wouldn't have if we were still together. We loved each other so much, there is no question about that. I think it just had to end. 7 months isn't really a whole lot of time, but I've experienced SO much that I've always wanted to experience. That list of things I've always wanted to do is getting smaller. My life is pretty much what I've always wanted it to be. I'm getting closer to being the kind of person I want to be. I still struggle though because I want to be able to share my accomplishments and happiness with him. I know eventually I'll meet someone else I can do that with though. I'm trying to avoid getting into a relationship for the sake of being in a relationship. I feel like I still need to grow a bit more and experience a bit more of life on my own. I'm happy, but also kinda sad. I'm coping one day at a time. 5
Tressugar Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Sounds like you are on the right path. Keep it up, you're doing a good job! 1
RogerWallace111 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 You remind of myself in some ways... Knew relationship wasn't working, have improved your life greatly since, wary of "filling the space" of the ex, etc. I've honed my life into what I want it to be and am finally making progress toward my lifelong dreams, and typically am happier than ever as a result. But "kinda sad" sometimes too, like you. I just still find myself lonely and thinking of her from time to time. Time and, eventually,a new person to love will fill all those gaps. In the mean time we are all 100% whole just as we are and it's silly as f*ck to keep your eye too keen on any future prize, next relationship, etc.
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