MarinaX Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 just one last update guys. She just sent me a picture of my house.. while she was diving by. How can I stop this? say whaaaaaaaaaaa not cool. you could try not responding to her texts a little longer and see if she stops or just be straight up and tell her that you don't want to hear from her again. that sh*t creeps me out!
mtnbiker3000 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 A good relationship is where both individuals have active lives outside each other. I guarantee that this girl would feel "neglected" in the future again regardless of who she's with. Yup. This was a problem for us as soon as we moved to a small town and left all of our own friends and family behind. No support network for each other except each other. This did not help an already 'less shiny' RS... Hind sight is so wonderful
calgary Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 just one last update guys. She just sent me a picture of my house.. while she was diving by. How can I stop this? that is flat out creepy of her dude haha. i would lock myself in my room and close the blinds ! so stalkerish of her.
destroyed4sho Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 she is purposely trying to scare you and spoil your good time. she Is a BULLY! How do you handle BULLY's? You ignore them and go about your business.
Am4Real Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Your referencing out of context -- please reread the OP. Ehh I don't buy that at all. Let's take his word that he didn't neglect her at all (friend time is ok once in a while) then that means that this girl most likely doesn't have much going on outside of him. He shouldn't be faulted for that. A good relationship is where both individuals have active lives outside each other. I guarantee that this girl would feel "neglected" in the future again regardless of who she's with.
Author westjames111 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Thanks for all the feedback, some great advice. It is pretty creepy that she drove by today, but I am still just ignoring her. I don't know if it will get worse or stop. My friends all say it will probably continue. It sucks even after all she has done to me I still hate to ignore her, but I know its for the best and she doesn't deserve to get the satisfaction of talking to me after what she put me through. Its been a long hard road and I imagine it is going to continue being hard for awhile, but I am trying to push through. The week is still young, so we will see how it goes.
SendHope Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Your referencing out of context -- please reread the OP. What am I suppose to re-read?
hestheone66 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 best solution to block her.. then the headgames can't start.. or perhaps change ur number. good that you can now see her for what she is.. and the 'relationship' was in your head, not in reality..
Author westjames111 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 best solution to block her.. then the headgames can't start.. or perhaps change ur number. good that you can now see her for what she is.. and the 'relationship' was in your head, not in reality.. Wait what relationship was in my head? We dated for almost 3 years that certainly wasnt just in my head, but if you mean when we got bak together I could see that.
hestheone66 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 I mean.. although you can be in a relationship ( i was in one with my narcissist ex for 12 years) when you look back, you realise a lot of it was living a lie.. accommodating their needs, ignoring your own.. i'm not saying that is your case but it takes 2 people fully committed to make a relationship.. not one person doing all the work and the other person tolerating it for a convenience.. to fulfill needs for companionship. control or eye candy.
fixing Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 hahahahahaha, good. Gives her a little taste of her own medicine. Now, keep NC.
GudDude2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Posted March 27, 2013 Burn baby burn! Do not give a ****, just like she didn't. Don't forget about the pain and suffering she put you through when she decided to run after your acquaintance. Women very rarely tell the truth. Of course she'd say because you neglected her, oh well, what? Your not allowed to hang out with your friends sometimes? Bull****! She went for this dude because that's what she wanted to do, period! If she made a mistake then hopefully she'll learn from it....she made her bed, ignore her, and let her lie in it. Accolades for being the bigger person and not falling into her trap. She just wants a reaction from you, just to know for herself that she could still have you as an option. Option gone baby.... keep it moving 2
Author westjames111 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 Burn baby burn! Do not give a ****, just like she didn't. Don't forget about the pain and suffering she put you through when she decided to run after your acquaintance. Women very rarely tell the truth. Of course she'd say because you neglected her, oh well, what? Your not allowed to hang out with your friends sometimes? Bull****! She went for this dude because that's what she wanted to do, period! If she made a mistake then hopefully she'll learn from it....she made her bed, ignore her, and let her lie in it. Accolades for being the bigger person and not falling into her trap. She just wants a reaction from you, just to know for herself that she could still have you as an option. Option gone baby.... keep it moving Thanks, yeah I agree. I am nobodies second option. Especially after all I did for her in the time we dated. She hasn't said anything since Monday. She said something Saturday night, Sunday afternoon, and a picture of my house on Monday. I never replied and I haven't gotten anything else. I guess those were just breadcrumbs she was throwing out to see what I would say, or try to get a reaction from me. Maybe she will leave me alone, but I have a feeling I haven't heard the end of it yet. It makes me feel good that she is starting to see things, but at the same time her contacting me hurts. This just shows how disrespectful and disloyal she is being to her new guy. He has already caught her trying to talk to me once.
Amelie1980 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Just to clear things up I didnt neglect her. I just like to have friend time sometimes. You know maybe one day a week where it is just all guys. I don't see a problem with that. She hated it though. See I was the other way around...he saw me once a week. The rest he spent with his friends or parents. Thought it totally acceptable to not call all weekend if I wasn't seeing him. he just didn't get it.
Author westjames111 Posted March 29, 2013 Author Posted March 29, 2013 See I was the other way around...he saw me once a week. The rest he spent with his friends or parents. Thought it totally acceptable to not call all weekend if I wasn't seeing him. he just didn't get it. Wow see my ex could never say I neglected her. I drove 3 hours home from college every Friday to spend the weekends with her for 2 years. I really think I should be regretting that, but for some reason I don't. I hope she looks back one day and see's how much I really did for her.
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