Greenj30 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Well my ex broke up with me because she is torn between me and her ltr ex. She goes out of her way to do nice things for me. Such as bringing me soup when I am sick. Or when I say "Im hungry but I dont feel like going out to get anything." She said she would go get it for me. Also she cares a lot about my feelings saying "I dont ever want you to feel bad or be sad. Let me know if there is anything I can do." But she can't be in a relationship right with me because it wouldn't be fair to me. I think she even got jealous once. We were at a cafe and a girl had asked me to sit on my lap. I declined but my ex was studying with her friend even though it seemed like she wasnt paying attention as soon as they were done she immediately came over asking abouy the other girl. But she is also cold sometimes like she is holdimg herself back or like she is afraid of her feelings. But right now I am trying to be there for her when she needs me like when she needs a ride somewhere like the other day. But if you guys have any tips on how I should proceed please let me know. Also I am trying to get back together with her.
Am4Real Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 She is stringing you along and the possibilities are endless for the reasons, whether it be guilt, open option, money,who knows... The symptom is classic cake eating. Definition: Cake-Eating is living without consequences. It has been described as the best of both worlds. But this is inaccurate; rather it is a superficial shadow existence in two worlds--living a half-life in each. To have the best implies fulfillment; there is nothing fulfilling in half-life existence; he is incapable of making a commitment to either world. Cake-Eating is maintaining one's own freedom in two separate worlds while holding two people emotionally captive for their own benefit. You sound young...please fill in the rest of the blanks on your ages and type of relationship issues you had.
Author Greenj30 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 I am 20 she is 21 but we had a good relationship although it was short(1 month courted her for 6.) According to her friends she really liked me and I didn't do anything wrong. Some of her friends even say she didn't want to break up with me. She's just trying to work past where she is now with her feelings for her ex one of my good friends who is probably moving away this summer(That will help. Also they are not getting back together he told her that a year ago and even encouraged us dating.) Right now she is just being confusing because she is confused.
Am4Real Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Green, Well then...that information helps. Best you can do, what you should do, is leaver her alone, totally alone, no messages of any kind. Based on both your ages all that you describe is pretty normal. The only communication you should deliver if you haven't already, and that's by phone with your voice, not typing with your thumbs on test or worse yet that god forbid immature Facebook is something along the lines: "I understand the time your in, the challenges you have, and respect you regardless; when and if the time is right you'll be willing to talk in the short term". Give her two weeks. If you hear nothing or receive silly breadcrumbs then i would cease all communications and move on. At 21 years of age, this could be her first time in life really having to sort things out. Pressure from you will not give her this virgin opportunity, if that is the case. Good luck. I am 20 she is 21 but we had a good relationship although it was short(1 month courted her for 6.) According to her friends she really liked me and I didn't do anything wrong. Some of her friends even say she didn't want to break up with me. She's just trying to work past where she is now with her feelings for her ex one of my good friends who is probably moving away this summer(That will help. Also they are not getting back together he told her that a year ago and even encouraged us dating.) Right now she is just being confusing because she is confused. 1
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