SJC2008 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I see some women here question men who haven't gone for sex right away. The most recent example she said "does he have pe?" and "Mabye he's sleeping with someone else"... I'm a man and love sex but I do want to wait a little bit and for a couple reasons. One being I don't want to date a woman who's going to give it up to just anyone, make me work for it. Two I would actually like to get to know a woman a little and not jump into the sack. My ideal time frame would be 1-2 months with 3 being my maximum. Anyway, why does it seem like you gotta make your move at the first opportunity or you'll be pegged a virgin or not interested? I now some women will appreciate a man like this but it seems like most would be like what's wrong with this guy?
apple OR orange Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 welcome to planet earth, its how it is...
Krieger Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 woman want sex more then men do IMO . Woman get there feelings hurt some times if you say no to sex.
neveragain34 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Haha. Did I spark this question? I am an exception to the rule; not all women think the way I was thinking earlier. (I have a few sex related issues I'm finally dealing with, but that's another story.) Blame this type of thinking on the men that DO want to rush to get in your pants or just want sex. There are many more of those men these days, that's it's hard for us not to feel rejected when you don't want it because its what we are used to. Also, I wouldn't think anything was wrong with you, I would think it was ME!
MsSmurf Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I'm a big fan of waiting a few months before sex myself and am happy when I meet guys that are on the same page or willing to get on it for me. I don't want nor do I expect a guy to try for sex within the first few dates, but it is a red flag if he's not trying to kiss me or sit a little closer to me. 1
AverageCat Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I'm a man and love sex but I do want to wait a little bit and for a couple reasons. One being I don't want to date a woman who's going to give it up to just anyone, make me work for it. But how would you know if SHE'S making you work for it, if you're working for it by yourself. Girls are emotional beings and they absolutely LOVE physical contact as long as they're comfortable with it. I say always go for the kill early on (though don't put too much pressure) and you'll know for sure if you have a R-material girl. 1
ThaWholigan Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I think when it comes to windows, it's simply knowing how to read a woman and take the risk in making the move. It doesn't have to be immediately or a year down the line - when she's ready depends on the kind of girl she is and how attracted she is to you. I've been burned by the window before, with a girl I really liked and I never ever made a proper move on her.
Author SJC2008 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) Haha. Did I spark this question? I am an exception to the rule; not all women think the way I was thinking earlier. (I have a few sex related issues I'm finally dealing with, but that's another story.) Blame this type of thinking on the men that DO want to rush to get in your pants or just want sex. There are many more of those men these days, that's it's hard for us not to feel rejected when you don't want it because its what we are used to. Also, I wouldn't think anything was wrong with you, I would think it was ME! It's a good thing your post wasn't copyrighted lol! Yours was the most recent so don't feel bad. I do agree to a certain extent that men are aggressive so when women come accross a "respectful" guy it gets them thinking. But my point is are the men who will wait so rare that it causes that wtf moment? I honestly don't think so. Edited March 24, 2013 by SJC2008 edit
Author SJC2008 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 The last women I dated met me at my house on our 4th date and we took her car. At the end I have her a kiss and told her I'll see you later and she had this grin and look like "wow he didn't invite me in". I could be wrong but that's what my intuition in the moment told me. We wen't out again for another date so it obviously wasn't a big deal to her.
neveragain34 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 It's a good thing your post wasn't copyrighted lol! Yours was the most recent so don't feel bad. I do agree to a certain extent that men are aggressive so when women come accross a "respectful" guy it gets them thinking. But my point is are the men who will wait so rare that it causes that wtf moment? I honestly don't think so. It's not so much the withholding of sex that got me thinking earlier, it was my need to know if and when we are going to make things official (which led to the other silly, crazy thoughts). If you have the conversation early on and make it clear that you want to wait till you are in a committed relationship with a girl before you have sex AND you are not sleeping with anyone else, then I don't think she will have a WTF moment like I did.
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