TammySong Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Ok, this is pretty long but i need some advise. So a month ago, i hooked up with a girl (one night)and now i don't know what to do. After we hooked up i haven't talked to her for about a week (it was a one night thing) but then we started to text. She said that she was looking for more than sex with me so i kinda continued to talk to her.. So 2 weeks later (after we hooked up) we planned to hang out again. Well she "forgot" about it and planned to hang out with her friend that night. However she would end up coming over. Blew me off #1... She end up bring her friend over so me and my roommate end up hanging out. After 30 mins or so, her friend and my roommate left so we could hook up. Well that didnt happen. As we was making out, she told me that she have to go then stating that she didnt know what i wanted from her (sex or something more). Sooo she left. Well she end up running into my roommate(they are friends) and she end up telling him that she had sex with her ex the day before. Well once he told me, i flipped out on her... After flipping out on her, she end up saying that she is sorry, it wont happen again, and she wants to make it serious between us. So we end up planning to go to the movies 2 days later.... Blew me off #2... Well she didnt end up texting me the whole day (We was suppose to go after she gotten off work). She end up messaging me on FB telling me that she had left her phone at work, she had family over, and that she was extremely sorry. At first i didn't respond because i was through with her and the bs. But i ended up talking to her (rookie mistake). So we end up making a plan to go to the movies a week later... Blew me off #3... Well now its Friday (a day before i leave for Spring Break) and we are suppose to go to the movies. That didnt happen. She ended up texting me, telling me that her brother was placed on house arrest and her parents told her that she had to watch him. She also said that she was excited to see me and that she had a outfit for me. I thought it was bs. Again, she said she was sorry and what not... and since i became attached to her, i ended up giving her one more chance. Spring Break... Since i went home, i couldnt see her during spring break. However, she was flirting with me more and more. She told me that she really liked me and wouldnt cheat on me, etc.. So we planned to hang out the day i came back. She said that she was really excited to see me, touch me wink wink, and to sleep with me (cuddle). Therefore it made me want her more, since she had made it seem like she really wanted me! At this point i wanted a relationship with her rather than being a F*** buddy and she said she wanted to date as well. Blew me off #4... Well a week ago, i ended up coming back to school hoping that i would see her, but that didnt happened. She said her car battery had died and she couldnt make it tonight. This was the last straw for me. I flipped out. I thought it was completely bs that there were always an excuse and i told her that if she didnt want to see me (or whatever) then dont tell me you do. This argument was different. I sense that she was already mad about her day, so i kinda made it worse. She didnt text me back that night after saying "I hate when you do this"... So i took it as if it was my fault for the way i reacted. I ended up apologizing the next day and she told me that she didnt know what she wanted and she needs to think about it. A week later.. (Yesterday).. I didnt talk to her for about a week. But the anxiety of her leaving me for an ex or a new guy was getting the best of me. I couldnt focus on anything. So i puss out and end up texting her last night. It was small talk (hey whats up, at a party, etc...). I ask if she wanted to come over last night and she said no because she was already drinking (claim party was down the road) then i'd ask if she wanted to hang out tonight and she said she was hanging with someone ( i ask if it was her ex, she said no... but it could always be a new guy). It felt like she really didnt want to talk to me, but then again she was at a party. I really like this girl but i dont know what to believe. I dont know if she is done with me or if she found a new guy or if she'd played me the whole time. Her excuses sound like valid excuses but then again why is it happening on the days we suppose to hang out? I dont want to look desperate (since that would only make things worse) or be annoying. I dont know if i should just stop trying or to keep trying to make things work. Any ideas? Notes.. - We dont go to the same school ( but its like 20 mins away from each other) - She works and go to school so hanging out during the week in the day time isnt possible
SJC2008 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 She's either saving face over the ONS or can't make up her mind what she want's to do. My guess is the latter. Typical college/early 20's drama...
apple OR orange Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 if your not the type to get sex easy this sort of thing happens alot.
Author TammySong Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Ok so just move on and call it a day?
Krieger Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Ok so just move on and call it a day? Well duh :laugh: She does not seem that interested in you so well duh.
apple OR orange Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Ok so just move on and call it a day? Yep Generally speaking, people that want to cover stuff up tell you the opposite (works for everything). "Yeah the cars great, would i ever rip you off", real world means, yeah, he knows something he really should tell you as its going to screw you over in 1+ years when you try to sell the car. "I wont cheat on you", yep, i will, but i will act in a way to test you so i know when to show and say so you wont dump me while i use you for lifts and money, but not give you all the sex you should have, only once a month or so...
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