leyah2000 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Hey people, i'm new. and I found this site cuz I just found out some crazy news. bf of 2 years has been cheating on me with his cousin's wife. he has known her for years and they kinda grew up together. anyway, apparently they been friends for a long time. she was introduced to the family and they became friends. he calls her his sister in a law, though she is married to a cousin of his not a brother. they started working together at the same job cuz this ho decided she wanted a job to fill her spare time. how bout being happy being a mother...that b****. she has 3 kids with her husband btw. so they talked everyday after work and became closer than ever. she became his best friend. naturally I didn't like this and I never trusted her from jump. recently my suspicions were confirmed, he confessed to it after lying to me about it for months but I knew they had more than a friendship. i made him block her facebook page and he is not talking to her every day like before. I feel like a can never trust someone like that again. this really showed me how he really is. But he is still saying he loves me and I don't even know if I should believe anymore. I don't want to get played again. should I move on and forget about both of these losers?
Poppy fields Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 That depends on what you want. Do you think trust could be rebuilt? Do you even want to try, or call it a wash and move on to greener pastures?
Author leyah2000 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 I don't know. I still have a lil bit of feelings for him. He is not a 100% horrible person but now I see he gotta lotta issues. that whore probably does too. maybe they need each other. I don't know. But I feel like one day I'm gonna break it off because he can't even tell me why he did this. I don't even think he feel guilty about it. He really is a bad person, now that I think about it. His cousin was nice enough to take him into his home, and introduce him to his wife and this is how he repays him? How is he gonna do me in the future if I stay? He still lying to me, telling me they only slept together 1 time but I don't believe that either. lol he thinks he is talking to a child lol the girl is so ugly and selfish, she got 3 kids, no job (she quit after they stopped ****ing lol typical ho) and she is married to his cousin. wtf? this is almost funny to me now.
Author leyah2000 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 I aplogize, did not know about that term being frowned on here. I usually don't talk about other women like that but I just so mad and that is what she is. that's all she is. I'm so mad I don't even wanna go out anywhere tonight...should I just end this relationship now?
BetrayedH Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I completely understand why you are so angry. You have every right to be. Before I make my suggestions, I should tell you that I'm a remorseful former ow, but anyway........you are pretty confident you haven't gotten the whole truth yet, right? Oh and most don't tell you everything at first. They lie to cover their own arses and in a misguided attempt to protect you. So......I suggest, you stop talking about it, act like you aren't that upset any longer, start gathering your evidence and determine if the affair is still going on. That's my 2 cents..........and I wish you all the best. Great post. Wish I had time to say more.
2sunny Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Tell her husband (the cousin). Then break up with him. Her H has every right to know!
2sunny Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 You "made him" block her? So he didn't offer? Do it willingly? He's just likely to cover up better now that he knows you know. His character is seriously flawed - what's attractive about that?
Bryanp Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I would strongly suggest that you contact the OW's husband and tell him what has been happening. There has to be consequences to their actions. Good luck. 2
Author leyah2000 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Thanks for the replies and advice everyone. I don't know what to do...I consider the fact that he done a lot for me and he has helped me so much cuz when we met I was not doing good financially and he never had to help me like that...that's why before my d-day I trusted him and loved him with out question. things just really didn't add up after a while though, I always thought that his sister in law was nothing but a trifling b**** in so many different ways. their conversations got too personal. I could hear everything because we live together. He was calling her everyday like he did not even give a **** about how that made me feel. Anyway, now he is still stonewalling me every time I bring it up. He won't answer anything about. He keeps saying "oh I was so stupid. that's it." Anytime I try to get more answers he just goes into a rage. He is threatening to put me out if I keep asking him about it. He is minimizing the affair now, saying they only slept once. No I don't believe that. He is trying to blame her now, saying she was under the influence of marijuana and she threw herself on him, so in a moment of weakness, he accepted. I'm not buying that either. I really think the relationship has been sexual and emotional for a long time. That's what hurts me so much. The emotional part. I just want to know the whole truth, not trickling truths. I want to know everything from the beginning. But he can't even say anything besides "I'm sorry." I don't care, I need to know why. :( I would strongly suggest that you contact the OW's husband and tell him what has been happening. There has to be consequences to their actions. Good luck. LOL. I have aready told a lot of other people in my "boyfriend's" circle. Its just a matter of time before it trickles back to his cousin. LOL Maybe I'll start to enjoy this, watching him squirm. His cousin is gonna find out any minute.
BetrayedH Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 He's going to be in the same position as you, wanting to know the truth and why and he he's just going to hear lies.
2sunny Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Why are you still with a guy who obviously doesn't care - while he hurts your feelings? He's not likely to give you the truth - I'd leave him immediately. 1
Woggle Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 What a great guy betraying both his wife and his cousin.
Author leyah2000 Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 (edited) No I feel very sorry for him. I have met his cousin a few times and he seems like a really nice person. I'm devastated that my "boyfriend" would do something like that to his own relative. The cousin has helped him many times in the past, including letting him stay in his home. (I know this because bf actually told me this himself). I guess that is how bf got to know the slutty wife so well.... What I was saying is amusing is that now bf is doing so much crying and panicking about his cousin finding out. Pleading and begging me not to tell anymore people, especially his cousin. What is funny is that the cheater now actually expects me to feel sympathy for him??? wow. I told him that I wouldn't tell his cousin anything, just to get him to stop whining last night. Seemed like he was actually convinced I'm over it. He turned over and went to sleep. lol When his cousin does find out and this comes back to bite my "bf" in the ass, its gonna take my bf by surprise. That's whats funny. He really thinks I'm not gonna make sure his cousin finds out. Hope his cousin is as stable as he looks and nobody gets shot. Edited March 25, 2013 by leyah2000
Bryanp Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 I am really glad Leyah that you are going to tell your boyfriend's cousin. Your boyfriend (hope not for long) is a real piece of work. He takes the kindness of his cousin to let him stay with his family and he returns this kindness by sleeping with his wife? What a piece of scum he is. I hope you inform the cousin very soon since he so deserves to know this information. I also hope you kick your boyfriend to the curb soon also.
2sunny Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 No I feel very sorry for him. I have met his cousin a few times and he seems like a really nice person. I'm devastated that my "boyfriend" would do something like that to his own relative. The cousin has helped him many times in the past, including letting him stay in his home. (I know this because bf actually told me this himself). I guess that is how bf got to know the slutty wife so well.... What I was saying is amusing is that now bf is doing so much crying and panicking about his cousin finding out. Pleading and begging me not to tell anymore people, especially his cousin. What is funny is that the cheater now actually expects me to feel sympathy for him??? wow. I told him that I wouldn't tell his cousin anything, just to get him to stop whining last night. Seemed like he was actually convinced I'm over it. He turned over and went to sleep. lol When his cousin does find out and this comes back to bite my "bf" in the ass, its gonna take my bf by surprise. That's whats funny. He really thinks I'm not gonna make sure his cousin finds out. Hope his cousin is as stable as he looks and nobody gets shot. Why don't you move? Your bf is a douche!
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