xMeeshelle Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Hello. Long story short*, I've known this guy for 3 years, have been dating officially for a year (and a few months), aaaand we still haven't met up yet. I'm 20, he's 18. When we first started dating, we were into each other.. a lot. Maybe too much.. We'd talk everyday since we were both awake and before it was time to sleep. We missed classes since we'd stay talking all night, so needless to say that semester ended with horrible grades. Some months before having our anniversary I wasn't feeling the same for him.. Like it was just empty, I didn't feel anything towards him.. I was neutral. I told him about it, and he said he still felt in love. I was hoping he'd make me feel in love again, but things just stayed the same. Fast forward 6 months, we're still the first person and last person to talk to, hell, we even started sleeping together (over skype). I still bring up the topic but he doesn't do anything about it :/ He's really sweet to me, and most of the times he looks for me after fights (super important, I have too much pride ). This is the first relationship in which we are now like best friends, but still attracted to each other. But still, when I started having the neutral feelings I just kept thinking about it, I feel it just blocks me from feeling anything >.< When he does things out of the ordinary like play a game he doesn't want to for me it makes me feel happy and I don't know, maybe kind of in love . Another part of me is like, maybe you're just forcing it. I've stayed this long with him because I want to be in love with him again, but maybe it's not meant to be. So, opinions? Is it normal to feel this way if you haven't met yet? *I really tried!
PepperPotts Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) I think it's incredibly normal to feel the way you do, and I would go so far as to say I think it's impossible to be in love with someone you have never met. You might be in love with the person you think you know, but people are different in person than they are online. If you're at all interested in seeing where this relationship could go (and I think you are), find a way to meet. Spend time together. You need access to affection and pheromones (not to mention live voice and scent)! You're running a relationship on zero oxytocin, and while we LDR masochists do it all the time, the vast majority of us have memories of time spent together to keep us going. You don't. Of course you're getting bored-- it's the functional equivalent of falling in love with a character in a book, it's just this one talks back to you. Meet in person. You'll know quickly if this should be a strong friendship or is worth your time and dedication. And so will he! Edited March 24, 2013 by PepperPotts 4
justwhoiam Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 I've known this guy for 3 years, have been dating officially for a year You're 20, old enough to use the right words about this story. You haven't been dating him, that would require going out with him, hanging out with him. Anyway, how far are you from each other?
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