ThatJustHappened Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I read exactly none of it. I'm not sure you understand the point of my thread.. that a person as awesome, intelligent, courageous and sexy as me is going to go after and try and get what he wants and certainly deserves out of life. The question is how. It seems that my OP has made 'No Contact' Again. When I decide to move on to someone or something bigger and better, that sounds like great advice. But as of now.. irrelevant to my thread and situation. Cease and Desist! My ex loves me. But.. its definitely a complicated situation. She may or may not be willing to come back. I think everything rests on a) me and how I handle it from her b) how everything is happening with her other relationship. Hopefully horribly But right now i think its going great This thinking is taken from the Law contract and business proposal school of relationships and breakups and reconciliation. Everything has to be agreed upon logically by the two parties before anything can be implemented.. Yikes. Good I'm glad it got your attention. Absolutely need to be dismissed and trivialized. I deserve this woman... she deserves me.. its just a matter of doing everything I can (including playing dirty in this game of love) to make her realize that. I think I came to the wrong message board, to many bleeding hearts here not enough practicality. Unless your moving on.. in which case I highly recommend the No Contact thread to anyone who hasn't read it Hey Tara.. I like you. You write well and are consistently cynical Yep. Now I know its the wrong approach. Naivety in and ignorance in the organic nature and seeming spontaneoty and naturalness required in these things. It's very simple. I didn't ask her out originally to be with me in that way.. nor would anyone ever ask like that. Just because we are experienced with each other doesn't mean I just disrespect the rules of the game by dulling everything down to a business proposal. Wheres the creativity, the romance, the magic, the intelligence I put myself there. I've pretty much created this entire situation.. immaturely. Thats what gives me heart and confidence. Because now, by getting back in control of myself and applying some intelligence I am looking to influence it in a positive way Yea. Probably because this is a bleeding hearts forum and the people that have successful experiences don't post here lol. This is my story I am gonna own it and make it as fantastical as it deserves to be. If I fail... I will fail spectacularly.. so I can tell it to you and anyone else in the world with a grin and knowing pride. Oh my. You are incredibly arrogant. Not only don't you deserve your ex, but you don't deserve anybody until you get that nasty attitude in check. 4
Author aj415 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Oh my. You are incredibly arrogant. Not only don't you deserve your ex, but you don't deserve anybody until you get that nasty attitude in check. Hey Thanks
ThatJustHappened Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Here troll..here troll! I've got some milk and cookies waiting for you under your bridge! 2
robaday Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Mate shes dating someone she knew while you guys were together......quite soon after you broke up....can you honestly say that even if you COULD get her back that you would be able to get over that? It would send a loud signal to her that its ok to breakup with you for someone else and come back to you? just fine, in fact from the sounds of it your being even nicer to her now, indeed spoiling her for hurting you?? And also if in the very slim chance she came back to you..........it would mean she would likely be cheating on the other guy and messing him around. Do you want a girl like that? who while in a relationship is willing to cheat on her current boyfriend? 2
Author aj415 Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Mate shes dating someone she knew while you guys were together......quite soon after you broke up....can you honestly say that even if you COULD get her back that you would be able to get over that? It would send a loud signal to her that its ok to breakup with you for someone else and come back to you? just fine, in fact from the sounds of it your being even nicer to her now, indeed spoiling her for hurting you?? And also if in the very slim chance she came back to you..........it would mean she would likely be cheating on the other guy and messing him around. Do you want a girl like that? who while in a relationship is willing to cheat on her current boyfriend? The thing is it was my fault for giving her unintentional signs to push away from me and then for me to break up with her... and influence her to make the decision to jump in with this guy. I told her lets be friends. Just to take a break.. not to truly move on. However I didn't realize until going over everything after... that there was some things I did and signs I sent that seriously broke her heart and made her think I didn't love her anymore.. and that just wasn't the case.. definitely a miscommunication from me. Then before they got together... being this was sort of my first serious relationship I really effed things up more... during the time we were seperated. I was treating her like she was still my girl you know.. not respecting the situation and handling it with grace and tact.. and so we have arrived until this point. Look if she really cheated on me or left me for someone else on her own volition and I really did want to break up with her I would say hey that hurt, time to move on. But being that she was so dedicated and in love with me and didn't originally want this and neither did I... Dunno. Not gonna go down like that Worth a shot. And if she is "cheating" on the other guy.. I don't view it as cheating. She was in a relationship deep and intense and in love, and if you wanna be the guy that pressures her and propositions her to move and date fast before she already healed you GOTTA know you can be treated like the rebound and be prepared to be hurt.. cus of the healing process. I think its his own fault for putting himself in that position of going after the girl with the broken heart and I wouldn't look like she did anything wrong..
destroyed4sho Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Are you trolling around? If not, you need help! I think we have a live narcissist here. I worry about you....maybe you need to talk about it with a therapist. If you really believe all that, why would you post asking how to get someone back in a dumpees forum?? Obviously we wouldnt know how..if we did well, we wouldnt be here!! But maybe you are different and special and you can teach us how. Let us know ! 2
TaraMaiden Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Ok, well, I shall 'unsubscribe' from this WOT thread.... be sure to let me know, someone, when the foul offensive-smelling brown stuff collides with the hi-speed rotating ventilator..... I know better than to feed the t....... Thanks!! 1
OwlSoul Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Wow, so many people bumping to 1 guy. I'd like to see more of this activity in other topics where people need more help than the OP though. Not kidding. 1
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