Dublinlad Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 Hi Everybody!! I'm going through a difficult period at the moment and i'm wondering if anbody can help me cope! I'm 25 years old and was going out with my ex girlfriend for just over a year! Everything was going great as we had a perfect sex life, could talk to each other and shared similar interests! She told me i was the best thing that ever happened to her! Then one day she told me she was'nt sure about her feelings anymore and ended the relationship! There was no body else involved or anything but i guess she just thought i'm not the one for her! She has a stressful period coming up in her life as her college days are almost over and she is quite unsure and insecure about her future!That was hard for me to accept but its getting easier. I'm kind of used to us being friends now and we contact each other sometimes! The only thing is i can't stop thinking about her during the day in work, i run through every emmotion thinking of her, love, hate, can't understand why? The thing that hurts the most is the thoughts of her going out at the weekends and kissing or maybe even sleeping with other guys! It really hurts thinking of her being intimate(even if it is only kissing)with someone else! I know that sounds selfish as she's single now, but i just can't move on! Please can somebody give me some advice to deal with it! It gets me really down! I'd really appreciate it thanks
WantanS4 Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 Take it.. cause there's no one magical pill of advice that will make it go away... time will fade it out.... and I know how you feel... I'm in the same boat. I think the same thing... but there's nothing we can do but wait............ But... taking the time to post and to read around the rest of teh forum... it's GREAT thearpy!
jamwinswim Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 Yes, read these posts. It makes you realise that it can be worse, but there are also others out there that suffer a great deal less. I feel the same right now over my ex..... the thought of her being with someone else kills me. I had that, and it was so good and intimate, and its hard to let go, almost impossible. but think of it like this.... you cant have it right now, so what can you do? Try to only worry about what you have control with. As Mike Skinner says, Dry your eyes mate, theres plenty more fish in the sea (i wish i could take my own advice).
born2day Posted September 10, 2004 Posted September 10, 2004 I agree! Time will heal you but you have to move on. I went through something similar and it took years to get over. I'm still not over, but I can laugh about it. This is really good therapy and also support groups are great or a therapist. The horrible thoughts will fade. You have to make the decision to stop loving her. You will also find someone else when you are ready.
Author Dublinlad Posted September 10, 2004 Author Posted September 10, 2004 Thanks guys, i really appreciate it! I guess i've been suffering this alone for to long and its comforting to know that i'm not the only person going through this! Just by being on the site and reading your threads its helping already! Hopefully we'le all come through this! Its crazy as u just wanna stop thinking about it but can't, i've had way to many sleepless nights!! reading these threads willbe perfect theraphy. Thanks again guys!!
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