KLA Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Hi there! Hoping to get some advice on an issue I'm having, I'll go through the whole situation as quick as I can. So a little bit of background. We've been together for 2 and a half years and have been living together for quite a while. We're mostly pretty comfortable with each other and don't really argue. However, he's a procrastinator when it comes to my things. A car I had bought for him had a new paint job on the bumper, done by a coworker. In the first week of it being home, the paint started to flake, and I was told by my boyfriend that it would be taken care of shortly. It's now over a year later, and it's still flaked. I drive the car since he usually drives the company truck, but he's the one that wanted to stupid car. Anyways, this past valentines day, even though our car needed work, he bought another car (broken) and brought it home. He spent more money on the parts and the car, then it would have cost to fix our car. The "new" car is still broken and collecting dust. Okay, on that note, my motorcycle has been broken for over a year as well. He told me he would take care of it, and it sat at his buddy's place for months not having anything done to it... Needless to say, we finally figured something out, only to find the battery was cooked. So we got a new battery three days ago, and he didn't hook it up, even though he said he'd do it right away. Needless to say, I asked him when I was at work yesterday if it was done yet, since he pulled it apart, and I have NO idea how to get it back together. Anyways, he replied back no. I kinda lost my **** (we were texting back and forth, so I was text yelling). I told him I'm sick of him neglecting my stuff when all of his things work perfectly. I hate it when he goes for a ride on his perfectly working bike, using my helmet, and my bike's sitting in the garage being broken and crap. Annnnnyways, I came home, cleaned and fed the animals, and went to go figure out the battery by myself. I saw he tried hooking it up, and it didn't work.( Wish he would have told me so before.) Anyways, after I spoke to him through messaging, I still have yet to talk to him. I came back inside, and he was already in bed, so I turned on smackdown and cracked a beer. I was texting my friends telling them that we got into a fight, but no one replied back. Some friends eh? At this point, I began to get upset, and realized my boyfriend is kind of my only real friend. I wrote him a note apologizing for being a crabby bitch, and saying that I'm not mad at him, and I got my point accross, so I don't feel like we need to argue anymore. Anyways, he read the note, and came home from work. The only thing he said was "It's the wrong battery". He hasn't even looked at me or spoken to me, let alone given me a kiss before going out the door. Right now I'm just giving him distance and letting him get over it. But holy hell, it takes some restraint not to yell "WHY AREN'T YOU TALKING TO ME!!!" Hopefully some of you can relate. So pretty much what I'm wondering is how long should I give him space? I believe we're both at fault, and I don't want to talk about what I could have done differently, because it's already done. I want to talk about the solution. What's a good way to make him feel better? Any way to reassure him that I'm not angry? I'd just like things to go back to how they were. This sucks, and we work different shifts, so I usually only see him after i'm done work, by then he's usually already in bed, or close to being there. Any help you can give would be awesome! Especially advice from any guys would be extra helpful!
insertnamehere Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 He's tired of your ****. Truth be told, you've probably already lost him and he's just working his way toward the exit so that he doesn't look like the bad guy when he finally takes you down in the lower 40 puts a bolt in the back your relationship's head.
neveragain34 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 He's tired of your ****. Truth be told, you've probably already lost him and he's just working his way toward the exit so that he doesn't look like the bad guy when he finally takes you down in the lower 40 puts a bolt in the back your relationship's head. She didn't do anything wrong?! He's the lazy, selfish one who shouldn't say he'll do something if he won't. OP, I say you don't talk to him or sleep with him till he fixes both cars and your bike! You shouldn't have apologized; you had a right to be angry. Another option...have a male friend or coworker, any MALE, fix these things for you and we'll see if he lets things slide again. No man wants another man doing the things he should be doing for his woman!
IAmRobot Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 LOL. If you want something done do it yourself. First lesson I learned. If you chose to be dependable on your bf for stuff you obviously cannot depend on him, it's your fault as much as it is his.
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