mortensorchid Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 My sister got dumped after she and her bf were together for 6 YEARS. I had met the guy only 2 or 3 times in the flesh, from what I determined about him he seemed alright, but granted I did not know him save for those few encounters. Apparently it was beginning to show itself over time. Apparently he had been saving up to buy a ring, and as my sister is going to be moving to another state in a few months he had been planning to go with. On a recent trip they took, she was kind of expecting him to ask her during that trip and it didn't happen. Later on he said that he had to spend the money he had saved up for the buying of the ring for a new car since he had totalled his. Hmmm ... ANd then he pulled it last night, saying he was just not the "marrying type" and he was ending it. I gave some sympathy her way. After 6 years, there was a lot of time invested in it.
soccerrprp Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Sorry about your sister. I have a friend that went through something similar, but was ENGAGED for 8-years! You say that your sister was seeing signs over the years, so my guess is that he was never truly settled about marriage. Just my guess. I must be one of the few in this world that feels that if it takes more than 2/3+ years before someone asks to marry that it will no happen. Again, sorry. Keep supporting her as she will likely be ever more jaded about relationships from this experience and extremely disappointed for some time. 2
Author mortensorchid Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 She and I are not particularly close, but I got all the information second hand from my mom today. I know all I know about it from her rather than from my sister, but I sent some love her way today. This is going to leave her more jaded like the rest of us. Like I said, I never knew the guy save for two or three encounters over the years, he seemed alright. I never had any indication that they were thinking marriage, but since she will be moving this July to another city there was talk about his moving with her. Even with that, I didn't know if they were going to live together once they were in the new location or whatever else may be. It's best he broke it off now rather than having to leave everything and realize he had made a mistake.
gaius Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Smart men dont marry. Men who don't marry die sooner. At least mortens sister will have the peace of knowing he will be dead soon. 2
SJC2008 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I must be one of the few in this world that feels that if it takes more than 2/3+ years before someone asks to marry that it will no happen. I don't think you're in the minority. Deep down inside they know he'll never commit. I told the last woman I dated who was out of a long R with a commitment phobe that if a man's going to marry you he'll propose within 3 years. I read somewhere a man should date a woman at least 2-3 years before proposing. For one to be sure you're out of the honeymoon phase and that most people hit their "peak" within that time frame and you'll see/won't see a drastic change.
wheream_i Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 ANd then he pulled it last night, saying he was just not the "marrying type" and he was ending it. I gave some sympathy her way. After 6 years, there was a lot of time invested in it. If he was not the "marrying type" then thngs should turn out alright. Imagine them getting married and THEN him deciding he's not the marrying type.
wheream_i Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Men who don't marry die sooner. At least mortens sister will have the peace of knowing he will be dead soon. Gimme a ****ing break. Shut your mouth.
RedRobin Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I don't think you're in the minority. Deep down inside they know he'll never commit. I told the last woman I dated who was out of a long R with a commitment phobe that if a man's going to marry you he'll propose within 3 years. I read somewhere a man should date a woman at least 2-3 years before proposing. For one to be sure you're out of the honeymoon phase and that most people hit their "peak" within that time frame and you'll see/won't see a drastic change. ... and well before then, they are both talking about what marriage and commitment means to them.... even if they aren't sure if the other person is the one they will be marrying. If those 2-3 years are more or less spent going from one day to the next with no 'expectations'... heck, if 6 months go on like that... then out they go.
musemaj11 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Men who don't marry die sooner. At least mortens sister will have the peace of knowing he will be dead soon. LOL very funny. Anyway, its not lack of marriage that kills a man. Its lack of companionship. But just because a man refuses to marry, doesnt mean he will be alone. 1
Anela Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Men who don't marry die sooner. At least mortens sister will have the peace of knowing he will be dead soon. You crack me up. 1
Anela Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 My sister got dumped after she and her bf were together for 6 YEARS. I had met the guy only 2 or 3 times in the flesh, from what I determined about him he seemed alright, but granted I did not know him save for those few encounters. Apparently it was beginning to show itself over time. Apparently he had been saving up to buy a ring, and as my sister is going to be moving to another state in a few months he had been planning to go with. On a recent trip they took, she was kind of expecting him to ask her during that trip and it didn't happen. Later on he said that he had to spend the money he had saved up for the buying of the ring for a new car since he had totalled his. Hmmm ... ANd then he pulled it last night, saying he was just not the "marrying type" and he was ending it. I gave some sympathy her way. After 6 years, there was a lot of time invested in it. What a crappy thing to do to her. That really is ****ty. My sister finally got hers down the aisle after about fourteen years - maybe more (I forget how long they've been in a relationship, since they started online, and didn't meet in person for several years). She wanted this for at least ten years before they actually got hitched, but he kept putting it off.
Woggle Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 There is nothing wrong with a guy not wanting to get married but be honest from the start. 1
gaius Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Gimme a ****ing break. Shut your mouth. I take it you're a fan of gun control? :confused:
Recommended Posts