Pirate40 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Well this is gonna be a long one. I'm recently separated from my wife of 10 years, together for 9 before that. I work out of two offices in two different cities, alternating each week. In the office that I visit every two weeks I struck up a platonic friendship with a girl that works there. When I would be in town we would go out for dinner and nothing more. While I was attracted to her I never acted on it. Shortly after I separated from my wife and it became known my co-worker approached me and stated that she had always liked me more than just a friend. We decided we would take things slow and see what happened considering I'm going through a divorce. My first visit in to town after this conversation we went out each night I was in town. On the second night back at her apartment we had an intense make out session that I initiated very spontaneously. She mentioned that she was pleasantly surprised that I just came out of the blue and did that and mentioned I was a better kisser than she had expected. I left to go back to my hotel room and knowing I was to leave town the next evening for the weekend she asked me to stay with her the next night. I stated I would like that. On my way back to the hotel she text me "I really like you :)". Next evening I go to her apartment and we kiss some, nothing like the night before but no bigger. She stated that her back was bothering her and very early in the evening said she was going to go to bed and I could sleep on the couch. Didn't think much of it at the time. But the next morning when I got to come home I could tell something wasn't quiet right. She seemed very hesitant when I went to kiss her goodbye. The next few days our conversations by text and office IM were very different from the previous couple of weeks. Then on Thursday of that week she comes out and tells me she doesn't think this is going to work but would like for us to still hang out like we had before. I'm like ok, sorry to hear it but I understand even though it did hurt pretty bad. Come the following Monday, which was this week, I get another text from her stating that she was disappointed she didn't hear from over the weekend and felt she was premature in ending things and hadn't really given it a chance. I stated I felt she ended it too quick as well but would not have tried to change her mind but that since she brought it up I would like to try it again and we could maybe go out while I was in town later in the week. She stated she would definitely like that. So I get in to town on Tuesday night. Ask her if she wants to grab a drink when I get in. She states that no she thinks she's going to just stay home and wash her hair. The following night I get another lame excuse and she states Thursday will work better. Thursday evening comes, when I'm leaving the office I let her know I'll pick her up at her place in an hour. Half an hour later she text me that she's not really hungry. I text back what's going on. She then text back that she's just gonna be honest but she's just not feeling it and not sure why. I respond back "Fine" to which she seems to take offense to. I then accuse her of playing a game with me which she says I should be thankful that she's been honest with me the entire time. The text get a little angry going back and forth and finally tell her I just really don't want to talk to her for a while. Then comes the awkward day at work yesterday. I basically try to avoid her all day due to feeling not only angry but humiliated that I allowed myself to get fooled again. I need to leave something work related on her desk so I wait to take it when I see that her IM states she is "Away". By the time I get there though she's back. I say "Hi" hand her the item and leave. When I get back to my desk she has already texted me that she thinks it's ridiculous that I can't even talk to her and still be friends. I respond back that it's fine but I just don't have anything to say right now but I have no hard feelings that I just need to cool off a little bit. I eventually go and talk to her before I leave to come home and things seem kinda like they used to. So, I'm back home 180 miles away last night, sitting in a bar with a buddy watching basketball. Around 9 p.m. I get a text from her stating she's just gotten home from an evening of drinking. I then get another text stating "I want you to come over". I respond back well I'm 3 hours away and it's funny you didn't want to see me the previous 3 nights when I was in town. Her response was but I want to see you now. Followed by another text she sent of her self in nothing but a thong. ARRRRRRGHHHHHH!!!! I call her out on mind f'ing me and she continues to do it. I have never experienced anything like this but have always heard the stories. After nearly 20 years being out of the dating circle I'm glad I've gotten my first post-marriage experience of this nature out of the way.
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