Stagnant relationships, boyfriends acting out of character. Worried.

[lovestruck.]

My boyfriend and I have been together for 17 months, we work together in a shop environment, which is how we met, and we've been living together for 12 months now.

 

The relationship has always been a slow boiler, he's naturally very independent, and generally doesn't understand romance, so he very rarely does things just to see me smile and make me feel special. I'm generally ok with this, it's who he is, and I know he still loves me.

 

The troubles started just before Christmas, when we were both sick of our job, had no money, and life together just became very boring and uneventful, and neither of us could find the energy to try and make it better. After 2-3 months of this, we decided that the only way to feel released from the boredom and unhappiness was to break up.

 

It was completely heartbreaking and after 1 week, we realised we were being idiots to not try and make things better, muscle up the energy to support each other, and put a smile on each others faces.

 

It worked, and things seemed totally perfect and happy again for a month or so, until the last week.

 

 

 

We are back in a position of disliking work, and having no money, and I told him that I am finding life really hard again at the moment, and He is the only good thing to keep me from completely panicking and stressing out.

 

Now..I had hoped that when I said i'm finding life hard, he would be supportive and try to make things better..instead he got frustrated and irritated with me.

 

Over the last week he has been acting odd, almost secretive, taking his phone everywhere with him, even when going for a quick pee and shower..?! He has been talking in hushed tones to his closest work mate, and looking over to see if i'm watching/listening, but not in an excited 'i'm planning a surprise' way, more of a I'm doing something wrong way..

 

This morning, I noticed he had an app on his phone named 'snapchat', which I later realised is the app with a somewhat promiscuous nature, which also happens to be the app his workmate uses to chat to 'sext' other girls (he is also in a relationship of 5 years).

 

Am i wrong to worry slightly, that because times have gotten a bit hard and the relationship feels somewhat stagnant, my boyfriend has taken to the same tactics as his mate to find excitement and entertainment?

 

I want to discuss his new found weird behaviour and this app with him, but I don't want to accuse him...or sound as paranoid as I am.

 

 

Anyone have any tips on stagnant relationships? Been through the same thing? Or know how to approach the subject?

 

I'm struggling.