Harradin Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 My ex left me for my 'friend,' a fat IT low level Technician weirdo whos only woman experience was 30 seconds of going out with someone when he was 12. Compare that to me, a mathematics university student who does motorsport, does judo/kickboxing so in good shape and has had girlfriends and attention from women. Mindf*ck right? I can go further about how signiciantly better I am then him, but you get the picture. Trust me, you do not want to know, the less you know the better. I have to live with the fact that the women I love keft me for someone so much worse then me. It hurts a lot and it destroyed my self esteem and confidence which I'm still trying to get back now and its been just over 6 months since the BU. You're far better off living your own life and moving on making the best out of it instead of worrying about somene who didn't want to be in your life. 1
Author na49 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Well if she's with the guy she cheated on me with, my ex will have left me for a 24 year old alcoholic "rock star". I agree with you (and everyone else) that knowing who she's with will only mess with my head. I'll compare myself to whoever it is and drive myself mad wondering how she could downgrade to someone who probably doesn't treat her as well as I did. I just go over the outcomes in my head and none of them are good. So I'll stay away. I am very curious and I'm considering having one of my friends just look at her profile and tell me if she's dating someone or not. I'm afraid if they tell me she isn't I'll talk to her. Meanwhile if they tell me she is, I'll run for the hills and hopefully never consider contacting her or seeing stuff about her again.
lop98 Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Wait, your ex ENCOURAGES his new girlfriend to cyberstalk you? That's hella weird. I mean, if you do it on your terms, then that's fine... but really? And she's blatantly copying you? Weird... he's a self-centered a*s (who just texted me breadcrumbs by the way) who gets a kick out of seeing girls competing for him, we were friends for years and one time when we had both been dumped (and he kept interrupting me because his breakup was more important than mine), he showed me pictures of his then ex, telling me the most random details (expensive schools she went to for example). recently he confessed he'd love to see me slap a girl, I told him it would stay in his fantasies cuz I don't downgrade myself like that for a man, but yeah, that's his trip. I'm sure he made me sound way better than I actually am just to get the girl all tense and worked up (she's so much younger than both of us). I genuinely feel a little bad for her because, post breakups, nothing exists in his mind except the victim that he is. The only time he tried to do this with me (years ago), I ditched him right away.. I was actually this girl's age, she should know better, or a thing or two about self-respect (and how to stop poking her nose around something that happened between two people she barely knows, for the sake of dignity). na49, I hope your friends are like mine and don't check out her social networks for you. I actually asked one of my friends today and he said 'I'm at work, can't' and then in the afternoon 'I'm back, I forgot to check', he's doing it on purpose and I kind of love him more for that, because really, what's the point?..
Author na49 Posted March 26, 2013 Author Posted March 26, 2013 Well I gave in and just ripped the bandage off. I saw the dude she cheated on me with, he seems to just be really good friends with her now. She looks like she has a lot of really good friends. She seems to be pretty happy with her life right now, so I don't know if contacting her just to see where her head is at will help me or not? I obviously can't handle friendship, but should I tell her that?
RiceaRoni Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 Well I gave in and just ripped the bandage off. I saw the dude she cheated on me with, he seems to just be really good friends with her now. She looks like she has a lot of really good friends. She seems to be pretty happy with her life right now, so I don't know if contacting her just to see where her head is at will help me or not? I obviously can't handle friendship, but should I tell her that? Let her come to you Na...
McDonald Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 So basically you only want to contact her to see if she is willingto have another relationship with you? na she cheated on you... it should be her begging. IDK what has happened to you over these past few weeks but get your head on straight and find someone who will not cheat on you god damnit. 2
RiceaRoni Posted March 26, 2013 Posted March 26, 2013 So basically you only want to contact her to see if she is willingto have another relationship with you? na she cheated on you... it should be her begging. IDK what has happened to you over these past few weeks but get your head on straight and find someone who will not cheat on you god damnit. exactly Na you have to muster up some self respect..otherwise if you contact her and come to her..she'll think what she did was okay and continue to do it because you let her... Let her be the one to come to you and beg,apologize,etc. I know people say you should never have too much pride, but in this circumstance it's essential..
Author na49 Posted March 27, 2013 Author Posted March 27, 2013 You're both right. She is happy without me, I just don't want to believe it. I want to believe she still misses me and wants to try things again. I thought snooping on her facebook would get rid of my hope, but it didn't. Well I've got work today and tomorrow, so hopefully this thing doesn't mess with my head while I'm at work.
CHERRITREE83 Posted March 29, 2013 Posted March 29, 2013 Finding out hurts!!!!! Its feels so bad, especially if you still have feelings for your ex, seeing them, kissing, laughing, and frankly moving on with someone new, does not feel good when your the ex. I tried to even remain friends after a break up with my ex and I could not take it anymore after he posted online about 100 photos and 99 of them had his current girlfriend/fiance in them hugged up with him. I finally had to write him a email and tell him that I could no longer be friends and that included deleting him on my social media account as well. Not knowing helped me focus on my life and moving forward. In the email that's exactly what I told him.
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