OCCDAVE Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Ill try and trim this up some girl I've been seeing for almost 2 months now dumped last night.The week started off good we had a small fight then I heard the words I need some space.Im not expert on dating but I am pretty sure that's a red flag.I then tried to call numerous times as well as text no answer .At this point I thought maybe something had happen so I made the 2 hour drive last night and boy was she pissed.We talked few hours hell even had sex but she kept saying she can't do this anymore .She even broke down after sex saying she won't see me again.Then kept saying I disrespected her by not giving space.I dunno maybe I'm a hard head but I always felt space or its not u it's me were send offs .Im not looking back maybe I should have just backed off .I dunno my eyes are blood shot red from all the crying .I was suppose to be going to her sons b day next week then hers was the following .
cavalier99 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Well on the bright side I guess you are over you ex who got married and had a baby right after breaking up with you I assume? This BU should be much easier! Cav 1
destroyed4sho Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 yes its over. your not wrong in thinking that. when they say they need space its an easy way to let you down. sometimes stemming from them seeing you as being really into them or clingy. it sucks..give her what she wants and go NC. sometimes when its so sudden ts bc thy met someone else. but its all speculation. 2
soccerrprp Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Sorry. When someone asks for their space, they typically mean it. She didn't respond to your calls and for you to show up unannounced, that did it for her. She felt that her feelings were not respected or worse. Never mind what happened while you were there.... What was the fight over, may I ask? Anyway, it's a learning opportunity. Not any easier, but move on. 2
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 Well this is beyond silly but I had gone to the er other night but my ph was dead.I then call her 7 hours later and she wasnt buying the whole er visit .She said I could have at least told her something was wrong with me I'm her bf she would have done the same .Not really something that warrented an its over out her mouth which is why I'm almost certain it was a red flag .Eh who knows maybe the showing up just was icing on the cake . Btw I know you said forget about what happened but unless shes a good actor she was showing real emotions by crying and stuff.Then again maybe it's guilt .Im not perfect dont get me wrong but how in a span of a day say you love me to buzz off is iffy :-/
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 yes its over. your not wrong in thinking that. when they say they need space its an easy way to let you down. sometimes stemming from them seeing you as being really into them or clingy. it sucks..give her what she wants and go NC. sometimes when its so sudden ts bc thy met someone else. but its all speculation.Thats something I'm still trying to figure out in dating .Some say ya contact the person then some will say slow it up or you will come off needy or not interested sigh I dunno
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 Well mutant I don't date much but I have tried both methods from little contact to with this girl bit more cause as she said she enjoyed hearing from me it helped her day go better.Im like you though I didn't travel to another country but having to make 4 hour back and forth trip added up .I have a truck plus rising gas prices yet with the exception of a snow storm we had I saw her at least once sometimes twice a week.After we exchanged love you few weeks back things seemed up .She admit to me yesterday alot of the time she had her wall up cause of prior rs plus having a kid she was protective.Like I said we both made mistakes her included why not try again she wasnt trying to hear it and said it was bad timing on both of our parts .
thefooloftheyear Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 She obviously wants to dump you... Why the heck would she give you sex? Friggin people are nuts!! TFOY 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 She obviously wants to dump you... Why the heck would she give you sex? Friggin people are nuts!! TFOYSeemed like she was going to give me the boot but as you said why have sex with me .I won't lie at first she was like no we can't do this cause after your going to leave me .I said look I love you and next thing you know it we did it afterwards she was crying saying now I won't see you again.I dunno whole story is iffy if u want me gone no reason to cry She just called I returned her called she said sorry called by mistake Ugh
cavalier99 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 (edited) Onto the next!! Tally ho! As for me I think im going to be banging this hot little latina dance intructor nymph soon. Avoiding attachments. Cav Edited March 24, 2013 by cavalier99
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 I was thinking ill go strict nc and maybe few weeks try to contact her on her b day.I dunno guess I'm just confused its obvious shes hurt and needed Space I just wish I gave it ;(
Ajax Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 I think it best to move on. This woman isn't in a position to give you the kind of relationship you're looking for, and to be honest, most likely neither are you. Give her the space, which means letting her go. Don't call, write, or visit. Not even for her birthday. If she'd wanted you in her life you would be. 3
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 24, 2013 Author Posted March 24, 2013 Sigh guess your right just hurt,confused and bit embaressed about it.Ive really only dated a handful of women in my time and she was the 3rd one I said I love you to.I mean I wasn't perfect but like she told me she had her faults to .It was hard for me to get fully to her she explained cause of the wall she put up due to her ex .I told her in time that would change but by not giving her space she fełt I **** on this and I'm selfish .I know it looked bad but I was trying to save this rs cause I love her .Today begins first day of nc and its gonna be tough mainly cause for last 2 months we've texted,Skype and even called so much .Thanks again everyone who has helped ill dust myself off and take it one day at a time:(
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 Maybe I'm looking at false hope here but is there a chance what ended up going on that night may be a glimpse of a chance ?I mean other then I was getting the boot she fed me,made out with me ,we cuddled for what seemed like forever them messed around leading to sex.Then again maybe I was just giving her a quick fix I dunno just confused why she would show emotion if she was telling me F off .Ugh I'm def taking this hard.
thingshavechanged Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 Ill try and trim this up some girl I've been seeing for almost 2 months now dumped last night.The week started off good we had a small fight then I heard the words I need some space.Im not expert on dating but I am pretty sure that's a red flag.I then tried to call numerous times as well as text no answer .At this point I thought maybe something had happen so I made the 2 hour drive last night and boy was she pissed.We talked few hours hell even had sex but she kept saying she can't do this anymore .She even broke down after sex saying she won't see me again.Then kept saying I disrespected her by not giving space.I dunno maybe I'm a hard head but I always felt space or its not u it's me were send offs .Im not looking back maybe I should have just backed off .I dunno my eyes are blood shot red from all the crying .I was suppose to be going to her sons b day next week then hers was the following . let's just say that i drove twice as far and didnt even get to enjoy what you got. what i got was a what are you doing here? go home or else i wont even talk to you........imagine that. some breezies are just so cold and emotionless. you should have seen the 15 minutes we talked face to face. like i said, youre lucky. 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 That sucks and guess your right maybe I was a bit lucky .Guess she wanted to give me the death row treatment where you get a 5 star dish before they get rid of you heh k lame.Maybe I'm odd but if she did what happen to you to me at least I wouldn't be confused.For me she said no I can't do this yet showed and acted way dif emotions .Way I see it sadly I think it's done but I'm holding small hope before Friday which is her son b day ill hear from her since she knows I wanted to be there if not then I know it's a done deal . 1
thingshavechanged Posted March 25, 2013 Posted March 25, 2013 That sucks and guess your right maybe I was a bit lucky .Guess she wanted to give me the death row treatment where you get a 5 star dish before they get rid of you heh k lame.Maybe I'm odd but if she did what happen to you to me at least I wouldn't be confused.For me she said no I can't do this yet showed and acted way dif emotions .Way I see it sadly I think it's done but I'm holding small hope before Friday which is her son b day ill hear from her since she knows I wanted to be there if not then I know it's a done deal . no, i got the responses you got... im confused, i cant see what I want clearly, I need space to figure things out...i got all the confusing stuff u got except without the luvn. ill be completely honest man, dont hold onto hope...itll just let you down. i did the beggin, pleading, reasoning bit rite after the breakup...sent her long ass texts....but then i decided that enough was enough... no contact. lets just say she didnt even bother to break it even to wish me happy birthday 2 weeks afterwards.....yea i held onto hope even tho i knew it was slim, wish i didnt 1
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 Well I also took the same steps only way I was able to get to her was show up out the blue .I also did the whole crying,begging and pleading and I won't lie the cuddling and all that I thought would help win her back .I almost wish I never did anything cause tbh I don't just do that unless I love someone and she claimed she was the same way .Sigh
Author OCCDAVE Posted March 25, 2013 Author Posted March 25, 2013 It's only day 2 of nc and I'm a wreck I miss her so bad
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