amerikajin Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 Well, I don't think I'd bite their head off. Seriously, if it's the kind of relationship in which you two collaborate a lot, you'll just have to suck it up, swallow your pride and forget about it. Yeah, I guess just forget you ever asked him. You were curious, you wanted to know him a little better, but he's satisfied with keeping the relationship on a professional level. There's nothing embarrassing or shameful about that, is there? If you two don't work too closely, then give yourself a little space and approach him more often as you begin to feel more comfortable about the rejection. Think of it this way: the poor b@stard doesn't know what he's missing.
neptoon Posted September 25, 2004 Posted September 25, 2004 When you ask a guy out, make it subtle. Here are a number of different things you can try: "Hey, I'm building an aquarium. Wanna come and wade through the creek with me and help me look for some plants and rocks to put in it?" "Hey, I gotta joint rolled -- wanna come smoke it with me?" <then proceed to bring up to a rooftop somewhere where you can watch the sunset -- this one works on almost every guy I've ever known> "Hey, I'm putting a new alternator in my car and need another pair of hands to hold it while I attach it -- wanna come help?" "Hey, I'm building a go-kart -- wanna check it out?" "Hey, wanna play pinball?" "Hey, me and a couple of friends are going to play lasertag (or paintball) and we need another person for our team ... wanna come?" <then make sure you're on his team> "Hey, I heard they're closing the NORAD bunkers and giving one of the last public tours, wanna go?" The trick to asking someone out is not to leave it open to what you'll do with them. Have something definite to do and ask them if they want to participate -- that way it won't seem like an official "date" and you won't be embarassed if they don't want to go (although if you get creative enough with the things to do, you'll never get a "no"). It can't be interpreted as asking someone out for a date if you're asking if they want to do something with you.
Author tokyo Posted September 25, 2004 Author Posted September 25, 2004 Neptoon, I think that sounds good. I think that really sounds better than asking someone directly for a date, I never liked that anyway very much. Amerikajin, thanks for your advice.
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