Author ThatJustHappened Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 I forgot about this thread. Excellent post Am4Real!
siankat Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 reconciliation is possible but things often end again cos if you could have fixed the original problems....you would have
siankat Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Sorry for highjacking the thread btw, so to answer your original question, I definitely believe in reconciliation because I've seen it happen many times before. Some have reconciled in a short time and some it took a couple of years to reconcile. I have a friend who just broke up with her bf. they were only apart for a month. She was the dumper but took him back because he promised to change and he had serious issues. They've been back together for about 2 months now and he hasn't changed much in my opinion. He seemed to make a few changes, like apologizing for his bad moods and not getting as angry as before (it's my ex's cousin, anger seems to run in the family). But he still hasn't changed that much and she still struggles with his behaviors. She doesn't regret reconciling though. Then I have another friend who broke up with her long term bf because he had issues she couldn't handle either. She moved out and in a month they got back together. This time it was perfect though. He realized he wanted to marry her and now they are more solid then ever before! So it seems to depend on the level of the problems and the personalities of each party. Another example is another of my friends got dumped by a guy she adored. They fought ALL the time. He left her and she got in another serious relationship that lasted 2 years. She got pregnant and had to have an abortion because the baby had serious issues. Much more serious then Down syndrome or something you could manage. Anyway, she ended up breaking up with that bf and saw her ex (the one who dumped her) at a bar, they reconnected and got back together! And I'm certain they will get married. They are perfect for eachother. So the evidence is pretty inconclusive from my experiences and what I have seen lol. But I do think taking some time apart is the best bet. If time apart only makes them get over you, then I guess they couldn't have loved you that that much? Hard to say.. The two that got together after they met again in a bar...what were their issues broadly speaking in the first place? Thanks
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