irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Of course women online have tons of options and men emailing them...but, do they have the same issue in real life? Do they have at least 4 or 5 guys from the same social circle trying to date her?
iKING Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Two options here. Either no. Or yes. Some do it because their lives don't consist of regularly meeting new people, some do it to broaden their options even if they already have plenty. It's less likely that a girl with a ton of interesting options outside OLD is going to do it, but it happens.
Archgirl Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Um I guess I qualify...I do generally have a few in my social/professional circle that give off interested signals but even if I was attracted this is no-go because I share this circle w my ex and it would be disrespectful. I'm not really clear on what info you want specifically op?
ls32ssibm Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 (edited) Here's one real life case study for you; Back in December I went on four dates with a girl who was an absolute knock out...she had a pretty face but her body was absolutely perfect. I met her off OKC. She said she decided to try internet dating because a lot of her male friends in her social circle only saw her as a friend and every guy she met from school wasn't "dating material". Come to find out she had a reputation as a giant whore so no guy wanted to date her. Take from it what you will Edited March 23, 2013 by ls32ssibm 1
Archgirl Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Here's one real life case study for you; Back in December I went on four dates with a girl who was an absolute knock out...she had a pretty face but her body was absolutely perfect. I met her off OKC. She said she decided to try internet dating because a lot of her male friends in her social circle only saw her as a friend and every guy she met from school wasn't "dating material". Come to find out she had a reputation as a giant whore so no guy wanted to date her. Take from it what you will What a thoughtful contribution. That's a poser alright. And as a side note: I'll take whatever you're offering hot stuff
candie13 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 never done OLD, don't think I ever will . If a girl is looking, she will get guys interested, online or offline. A LOT easier if she's pretty.
mortensorchid Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Well, what else are you going to do other than OLD to meet others these days? If you already had someone who was worth your time/energy, you would have been with them already. It doesn't matter how attractive you are / are not anymore.
MrCastle Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I think OLD is a whole different animal and the same dating rules don't apply to real life. In OLD, race and height will bury you. In real life, no. In OLD, average women by all measures (looks, personality, lifestyle, etc) get messaged like celebrities, and the above average girls, forget it. In real life, I think it's different. Does a hot woman have more people after her than someone less attractive? Of course. But keep in mind just because she has more quantity doesn't mean she has more quality. A lot of people think any guy that likes a girl is a potential option, but, options are only people that you find attractive yourself. Also keep in mind, the hotter women probably get approached less because a lot of men fear approaching a significantly attractive woman, so they probably aren't getting a lot of men cold approach wise either. 1
Estate Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Of course women online have tons of options and men emailing them...but, do they have the same issue in real life? Do they have at least 4 or 5 guys from the same social circle trying to date her? Yes, or no... of course every woman in the world is the same. We can easily understand all women without even attempting to get to know one by asking simple questions and then applying the answer to every single woman we ever meet (or in the case of LS guys, never meet). 2
Mr_Flay Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Also keep in mind, the hotter women probably get approached less because a lot of men fear approaching a significantly attractive woman, so they probably aren't getting a lot of men cold approach wise either. Bah, there are guys that are absolutely fearless when it comes to that. Like construction workers. 1
ls32ssibm Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 A 25 year old woman on OLD is also going to be solicited by men of all shapes and sizes age 20-55 probably. Of course very few are actually desirable, but their options just explode behind the "anonymity" of the interwebz. 1
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I get hit on left and right offline but I STILL prefer online dating. In real life I'm exposed to chemistry, but I have to develop a conversation to find out about the person. Online I can get a sense of chemistry through the picture but I can know immediately if a person will have anything in common with me. Frankly, as an atheist, socialist, feminist, environmentalist, peace activist in America I am NOT going to have much in common with the average guy hitting on me face to face. I prefer OLD because I can weed out immediately those religious and conservative people I know I can not possibly date. OLD saves me time and emotional investment. Yes, it's a more painstaking process, but it produces more favorable results at the end of the day and that's why I prefer it! Saddest ...post...ever....LOL I see online dating as an extra avenue to meet other people, but I definitely would NOT prefer it over real life encounters....it's too impersonal and cold. People online don't get a rats backside about those who talk to the through there. It's better to form bonds with people by interacting them among your social network of friends.
Michelle83 Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Saddest ...post...ever....LOL I see online dating as an extra avenue to meet other people, but I definitely would NOT prefer it over real life encounters....it's too impersonal and cold. People online don't get a rats backside about those who talk to the through there. It's better to form bonds with people by interacting them among your social network of friends. I really get what she's saying about OLD. It is much easier to find out potential deal breakers going that route, but I've found the same thing. It is way harder to develop the spark/chemistry with OLD than in real life. In real life someone catches you eye and that attracts you to them. With OLD, it's opposite. I suppose for people who aren't as picky in the looks area they may have no issues with OLD, but if you're more specific with what you want, I do think it's harder. A picture is good but it can only get you so far. From what I've experienced when things develop naturally in person without the imposed 'set-up' the chemistry is stronger as well. In response to the original question, I also think it really has to do with lifestyle. I've been pretty blessed and generally don't have too hard of a time getting guys interested, but I just don't meet people at all. I work from home, am not much into the party/club scene and with so many of my friends all marrying, it's just not happening. It's something I'm becoming more and more aware of...just that I'm really going to have to go out of my way to make myself more available to meet someone outside of OLD. I'm not even sure I know where to begin. Lots of my hobbies are more single type of activities or very female-oriented ones, so that gets trickier. 1
Terminal-Ice Posted March 24, 2013 Posted March 24, 2013 Mostly everyone I meet IRL who I would be interested in is already taken. Those few single folks I meet are not what I'm looking for or live way too far away. OLD proves that my type is out there, but they're nowhere near my social circle. I also think that men my age tend to not go out.
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