bricker Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Hello Everyone, Call me Joe. Quick story, my relationship of 4 years was dying. I was walking towards alcohol addiction. We broke up. Fine by me. Last I met her was to sort some financial issues. As I enetered (after sorting out the issues) the parking lot a guy brushed my car. It just blew my fuse and I had a full blown brawl. (I threw the first punch but the other guy abused and threatened me with a weapon first). I thought that she had left by then but she was still there watching from the sidelines. It killed me to see her what I think was sobbing. Anyhow NC post that. I have never been a violent person, I don't know why I blew my fuse. As per outsider accounts I got the daylights bashed out of me. Anyway after 4 months I messaged her if we could speak. She said in a couple of hours. I said let's speak on IM rather than on call. I dunno how to proceed forward. I am strong enough to admit that she could have moved on or not interested. Fine by me. I have fought some real up hill battles and realized you cannot change the will of people. But any tips or pointers. How do I ask her if she is seeing someone?? HOw do I ask her out again?? Or anything else I should do??
iouaname Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I mean, there's not really a game that you can play. There isn't really a way you can word it or a way you can bring it up that is going to change the answer. If she's seeing someone, then she's seeing someone. How you ask her isn't going to change that. Also, if she wants to get back together, it'll be the same answer no matter how you ask. I think that it's risky to do this after 4 months (assuming that she hasn't attempted to contact you at all?) but best of luck to you!
fixing Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Well, if you want her back. Than obviously, you ask her, politely, is she dating anyone etc. If she says no, than, i suggest you go about charming her, like the good old days, but dont be too pushy, and be YOU. Give her the signs that you are interested in reconciliation, but dont come off too needy. Dont bring up past negative shiite, unless she asks. Hope you can combat the alcohol addiction too. If you have, than tell her.
Author bricker Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 It's over which was pretty much expected. If anyone would like to see the convo. will be glad to post it. Personally, I think I did not do it well and she has gone to a different place mentally.
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