irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I'm starting to notice this as a "PS" or an "Addendum" to the end of a lot of woman's profile. "If you email me, it means one thing, I'm not interested!" Do you think this kind of tacky to tag at the end of your dating profile?
gaius Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I guess she means she ain't interested unless she emails you first. You're the slave and shes the master browsing the market. Sounds like a girl I would send 900 messages to if I were doing online dating. As long as she didn't email me first of course. It is kind of tacky but everyone's looking for what they're looking for I guess. 1
iKING Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I guess she means she ain't interested unless she emails you first. You're the slave and shes the master browsing the market. Sounds like a girl I would send 900 messages to if I were doing online dating. As long as she didn't email me first of course. It is kind of tacky but everyone's looking for what they're looking for I guess. Let the inbox filling commence. She sounds a bit full of herself. 3
outsidethebox Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 No, they are saying if they don't reply they are not interested. As in don't send another message demanding to know why first message went unanswered. I guess it comes with territory when you have some (many?) guys blasting messages to everyone, this is what results.
SJC2008 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I think it's more of an ego boost than anything. It only takes a click or to to trash an email and mabye a few clicks to block someone if they send you more than one.
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 No, they are saying if they don't reply they are not interested. As in don't send another message demanding to know why first message went unanswered. I guess it comes with territory when you have some (many?) guys blasting messages to everyone, this is what results. Yeah, I've seen her on this site for a few years, lives locally in this bumpkin town, and she's never been off of it. After having seen some of these same women for a while, perhaps it's time they rethink their dating parameters or maybe meeting men out in the real world. 1
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 Woops, on that 2nd sentence....I mean to say, "If you email me, and I don't reply, I'm not interested!"
Archgirl Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Woops, on that 2nd sentence....I mean to say, "If you email me, and I don't reply, I'm not interested!" Hahahahaha New winner! Now that makes a lot more sense! I think that sounds more legit- I would never put it coz it lacks panache but I get way more messages than I can or want to reply to and some guys think that persistence is the key. Only it's not. Like really not. 2
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 Hahahahaha New winner! Now that makes a lot more sense! I think that sounds more legit- I would never put it coz it lacks panache but I get way more messages than I can or want to reply to and some guys think that persistence is the key. Only it's not. Like really not. Actually, in THEIR defense (which is a shocker, lol).....they usually don't have that in their profile for a while....then they go click on "EDIT PROFILE" and add the "P.S." in there about announcing "By the way, if I don't reply, I means I don't want to waste each others time!" I read some woman actually explain this IN her profile...she said she thought about replying....but then she "visualized" herself trying getting caught up in an arguement with a guy trying to "reconsider" meeting him for drinks or doing lunch....and having to deal with the "Well, why won't you date me, I feel we're compatible?" Question and getting sucked into a long winded conversation about "Why won't you date me?"
soccerrprp Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I'm starting to notice this as a "PS" or an "Addendum" to the end of a lot of woman's profile. "If you email me, it means one thing, I'm not interested!" Do you think this kind of tacky to tag at the end of your dating profile? Yeah, it's not always true that no response means no interest. I've gotten dates with at least three ladies online by being persistent. BUt only after they've viewed my profile. So, it is helpful when they express this IN their profile and they're pretty much adamant about it. I don't think it's tacky.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I just block those that e-mail more than once.....sometimes even a few months later hoping that I have forgotten that I don't find them attractive
Taramere Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Like Archgirl I wouldn't use it because I think it sounds a bit rude and negative. I don't online date, though I've been considering it, and I would probably try to respond to any message so long as it was polite. Purely for the purposes of searching a site, I did put up a bare bones profile that had next to no detail on it (just age, weight, height - no photo and no "personality" profile). Even that attracted a fair bit of interest, and I'm not exactly in the sought after age category. I don't like rejecting people, and I can see myself sending rejections that were so politely worded that some men might not realise they were rejections. Which probably causes more offence, in the long term, than just ruthlessly ignoring any approaches from men I didn't feel interested in. When I first started a Facebook account I received approaches after making the mistake of going on my city's network. A couple of the approaches were obnoxious enough (sexualised or obviously stock approaches that they were spamming women with) that I felt justified in ignoring them. With the more genuine seeming ones I just explained that I wasn't using Facebook for dating purposes and apologised for any misunderstanding - and it didn't lead to any problems. With internet dating you're not going to have that excuse. It comes down to the old thing of nobody enjoying getting rejected. However the rejector approaches the matter, they're probably going to get criticised for it because the rejectee is feeling varying degrees of hurt and angry - and a carefully thought out, kindly intended rejection isn't going to change that. Inevitably people who get multiple approaches every day are soon going to get exhausted from trying to handle each approach in a carefully thought out and diplomatic way. For young, very attractive women it would probably start to feel like a full time job. So I guess the "if I don't respond I'm not interested" women are just taking a pragmatic, if somewhat curt sounding, approach to that problem. It's an approach that is probably going to only put off guys who think they're liable to be amongst those filtered out...and I think that would be the intention. 1
soccerrprp Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 There are those who make it honest and much more simple. When they put a line such like that they make it simple. They've undoubtedly been harassed for her to put that line in her profile. I've seen a couple of profiles that have similar lines, but a little more pleasant by adding at the end "good luck" or "i hope you do find someone for yourself." Nothing rude about that. Anyway, I can see how some would find this rude, but also know people who get perturbed when they get NO response. Can't make everyone happy....
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 Yeah, it's not always true that no response means no interest. I've gotten dates with at least three ladies online by being persistent. BUt only after they've viewed my profile. So, it is helpful when they express this IN their profile and they're pretty much adamant about it. I don't think it's tacky. Hm, good point there....maybe they should have a copy and paste "response" template handy? LOL I've actually gotten dates with women by following up a few weeks to a month later.....some have been apologetic about it and had agreed that they've been so overwhelmed with emails lately....that they do tend to overlook them. REason I say this, I heard of a man who had contacted a woman that was VERY local to him....of course, never got a response....which is typical. THEN, one day he spots her out in public....approaches her, have a great conversation with her...and then got her #....they dated exclusively...too. About 3 or 4 dates into it, he finally admitted to having knew who she was when he approached her, and he DID email her...and she said, "Oh my gosh, if I knew it was YOU, I would've responded!!" LOL Talk about irony...but yeah, some women are passing up good guys online, when in fact they would've never done the same thing to that same guy out in public. So online dating is a bit of a crutch. 1
Art_Critic Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 I guess it is a little tacky but somewhat understandable though. From what I have heard the typical exchange some males being turned down via an email will result in her being called a biotch or some other name. I would think it would only take a few emails being called a biotch for no reason before I would stop replying to all the emails. 2
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I don't need to be lectured in a woman's dating profile. Get used to it...it's a bit trend in dating profiles these days. I've even seen 'Short guys don't email me!" I would think it would only take a few emails being called a biotch for no reason before I would stop replying to all the emails. The more polite guys will attempt to "talk her into it" if she ever DOES respond...thus , she's wanting to avoid that conversation altogether.
soccerrprp Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 Get used to it...it's a bit trend in dating profiles these days. I've even seen 'Short guys don't email me!" The more polite guys will attempt to "talk her into it" if she ever DOES respond...thus , she's wanting to avoid that conversation altogether. Yeah, i've seen some like this. Some people are simply mean..
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 I just block those that e-mail more than once.....sometimes even a few months later hoping that I have forgotten that I don't find them attractive You STILL remember them MONTHS later? I find that hard to believe lol
Art_Critic Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 The more polite guys will attempt to "talk her into it" if she ever DOES respond...thus , she's wanting to avoid that conversation altogether. partly, then the hateful email would come if she stood her ground and then stopped replying. Something to remember too is that for every nice exchange in email there are like 10 that don't go so nice.
Archgirl Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 partly, then the hateful email would come if she stood her ground and then stopped replying. Something to remember too is that for every nice exchange in email there are like 10 that don't go so nice. and about 200 offering to show you their third leg
Author irc333 Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 What I don't care for is...when they do reply back....they just reply back to the questions you just asked them....but they ask nothing about you.
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