90s kid Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 (edited) Usually I don't like the idea of getting hit on at the gym- i'm all sweaty and not looking my best. But I had an experience a few days ago that's leaving me really confused and I need some imput. A few days ago, I took a cycling class at the gym. i got there a few minutes early and starting warming up on my stationary bike, just listening to music before class started. This random guy comes and grabs a bike near mine. I honestly didn’t really pay attention to him. I wasjust cycling and listening to my ipod. Next thing I know, I see him kind of wave to get my attention. I take out my ear buds and we start chatting. He asked me if I’ve taken that class before and what other classes I’ve taken there, if I’ve ever tried yoga. He said that he enjoys working out in groups and asked meif I have a workout buddy. I said that I actually enjoy working out alone.(In hindsight, I wonder if that was his attempt to become my workout buddy or something or maybe that was his strange way of asking if I have a boyfriend?) But this girl wound up grabbing a bike between us so we couldn’t keep talking. I talked to her a little bit and I could see him looking at us. I tried to look at him while I talked to her to try to include him in the conversation but that didn’t last long as the class started soon after. When the class ended, he just walked straight out without saying a word to me. I was kicking myself the entire ride home wondering if I did something wrong by saying I preferred to work out alone. It felt like maybe he was interested in me and maybe I need to be more flirtatious to show interest. He was really cute and I was so pissed off that entire night for missing that opportunity. So here’s where it gets interesting….I went to cycling class again the next day and guess who walks in? I nearly peed my pants when I saw him. I was like, omg, this is my second chance! He walked in and recognized me immediately. We said hi and he grabbed the bike right next to me this time. There must have been at least 40 bikes in that room and ¾ of them were completely empty. It has to mean something that herecognized me and grabbed the bike right next to me, right? In my head, I immediately made the decision that I was going to be friendlier and more playful this time so when I saw him, I said “Did you follow me over here again today?” That was my attempt at being cute with him and breaking the ice. Then, we started chatting again. The music was so freaking loud, I had to keep asking him to repeat what he was saying, I kept trying to keep the conversation going. We were asking each other lots of questions. He asked what school I graduated from, what I did for a living, and he asked a ton of questions about my master's program. He was telling me stuff about himself too, like the fact that he has a sister who’s in college and that he wants to go back to school to get his master's. The conversation was pretty in depth considering it was our second time seeing each other ever in life. We were talking through the blaring music and warm up until the instructor told us to spin standing up on our bikes. I was literally reelingthroughout the entire workout. The confusing part is that when the workout ended, he walked right out without saying a word to me. WTF???? No goodbye or anything. I was sooooo upset. I mean, I don’t THINK I misread any signs. Was he interested in me or not? In my experience, random men don’t approach women they don’t know and start a conversation unless they are hitting on them. So I’m confused about why it didn’t go anywhere. I’m going crazy over it because he was really, really cute. I’m just at a loss about what happened. And I still don't know his name! He never asked me for mine either! Was he hitting on me or not??? Edited March 23, 2013 by 90s kid
ja123 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 My feeling is that he would have looked at you, smiled and waved goodbye when he left the room, if he were truly interested. At this point, it sounds as if he is just a social person and perhaps a bit bored, so he's looking for people to talk to.
joey.101 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 hint to catch up after gym in a more comfortable location like a cafe or something and see what happens. Just say something like, I'm going to grab a bite to eat (or drink or some relaxing casual activity) at (so n so place), and ask if he'd like to join - if he fails to pick up on the hint initially.
Author 90s kid Posted March 23, 2013 Author Posted March 23, 2013 My feeling is that he would have looked at you, smiled and waved goodbye when he left the room, if he were truly interested. At this point, it sounds as if he is just a social person and perhaps a bit bored, so he's looking for people to talk to. I agree that if he was truly interested, he would have followed up with me after the class was over. It just seems like a lot of personal questions to ask someone that you're not really interested in. Also, there's a lot of other people in that class, including women. Why go out of your way to get my attention and sit next to me two days in a row if you're looking for just anyone to talk to?
joey.101 Posted March 23, 2013 Posted March 23, 2013 in his mind it could be that he knows it's only been 2 days so maybe he might keep it up so he can see for himself - being cool. Also, he wouldn't know if you'd get freaked out if things went too quick - you did give the response that you rather work out alone so he could have gathered that he should just keep cool. i reckon relax and see what happens, keep up with normal activity. 1
Recommended Posts